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Got any holiday crazy?
I keep noticing a common theme as I'm checking out other boards....lots of family drama in one area or another with the holidays coming up. Got anything you wish to get off your chest? I can promise sympathy and/or nodding in recognition since it seems we've all got at least one "special" family member....
Re: Got any holiday crazy?
I pretty much have nothing (yet).
We extended an olive branch to DH's family and asked everyone to come to our house for Thanksgiving. Two days later his mother called and said that they are having it at their house on a completely different date (some random Saturday) and that they have made "other" plans for the actual day. No mention of our invitation. At first, we were upset but you know what? Now Thanksgiving will be just the two of us in our Old Navy pajamas, watching football and drinking Coors Light which is how we like it.
Also, we are planning to fight the crowds on Black Friday to buy a new television..this will be our first Black Friday ever and we are totally pumped up!
This year, it's just me, my mom, my sister and JJ. My mom's even considering chucking Thanksgiving out the window and spending the entire weekend [minus Bedlam Saturday; we'd come back Friday night] in Dallas to shop.
H's extended family got mad because there's no way he's coming home for the holiday - and apparently, they're all gathering in Lawton this year [they've been planning it for a few weeks, but we found out like, two weeks ago...thanks guys]. They think he can just pick up, fly home and be here - nope. He's got mandatory training and is stuck there until at least New Year's. They can be mad, but I'm not going to his family's house by myself on Thanksgiving so they can try to rip me a new one. I'll stay at home and ignore that, thanks.
Nothing yet, other than the typical nobody really has any plans and we'll just wing it when the time comes.
BUT, last year we had some ridiculous drama with my aunt. I don't want to go into too much detail, but just before Thanksgiving last year, my 19 year old cousin went through some pretty heavy shiit. He was understandably kind of down at the family gathering. Late that night, he was in the kitchen with his brother, my brother, and me, just all cutting up, laughing, etc. I was thinking, "Good. Maybe this is helping him. Glad to see him laugh, etc." Right in the middle of all this, my aunt yells across the open living room/kitchen, something about what had happened. My cousin immediately stopped laughing and got upset again. I was soooo pissed. She's such a negative attention whore.
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My grandma won't stop talking about her upcoming surgery during which she'll have bones taken out of one of her toes because she has a corn. And she won't stop talking about her UTI and how her pee smells like fish and burns, and so she has to go to the doctor.
In other words... way, way, way TMI.
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We should totally get our grandmas together! My grandma is always talking about her poop or how she farted and what it smells like or this or that or whatever.
The most crazy we have is that my "ancle" (my aunt who used to be a woman and is now a man) comes to visit. Ancle and Grandma don't get along and usually get in some sort of argument, but it is generally mediated by my mom pretty quickly
Argh, my grandma on my mom's side is a huge complainer as well. There's not really much wrong with her other than the fact that she pretty much just won't walk and enjoys being the victim. We don't spend the holidays with them, so there's not usually holiday crazy with regards to them. I hate the way they treat my mom though.
That's cool about your transgendered uncle, Shansbride! Props to him for making such a difficult decision, but boo about the arguing.
Stripes, can't believe they just blew off your invite. They are fools for sure.
I have another question: do you guys "mix" your families? Like do you do stuff with your DH's family and your family? For some reason, I really do not like doing this, and we have made no move to mix our holiday traditions like that. Our families are pretty different in some ways, so maybe that's why.
For two years I think H's mom came to my parents house for Thanksgiving dinner. His mom is his only family so we invited her, but she said she didn't want to come when H told her she couldn't drink. She came to their house for V's first Christmas too, but that was it. So basically, we do holidays with my family and we don't even talk to H's mom anymore (not from the holiday thing, it was other issues)
This is freaking awesome. Please tell me more about this.
It's really not all that exciting. When I was growing up, my aunt was a lesbian. She would bring her girlfriend to visit and all was well. Well, maybe 10 years ago she and her girlfriend (who had been her girlfriend for as long as I can remember) broke up and my aunt was dating women. She has always looked a little masculine, but she really sort of started looking very...gender neutral. She actually married H and me and people weren't sure if she was a man or a woman at our wedding.
Then 2 years ago she said she didn't think she was supposed to be a woman. She said she wasn't really a lesbian, but a man stuck in a woman's body and she was going to become a man. I am not sure if she has had any surgeries yet or if she still just binds her breasts down (really I don't feel comfortable asking), but she is taking hormones and such so she has a beard and she is a man now. I still have a hard time calling her uncle or even calling her him (as I just noticed this whole time I called him, her) and it will def. take some getting used to, but it makes things interesting.
Either way, I am glad he is happier in life now and feel more comfortable in his own skin. I was worried that the kids were going to ask questions about him being a man or a woman, but V just calls him a boy, so really I think it will be easier than I think.
So, there is the Thanksgiving craziness. My grandma (my mom's mom) still hasn't accepted that her daughter was ever a lesbian so this is totally unacceptable to her. That is where the drama comes in. The rest of us really don't care though.
Good for him! Life is too short to be miserable!!!