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Popping in to solve a little topic between the H and I :)
I've been busy this week so not much time to Nest 
I got a FB message from a man who coached me in high school. Nothing ever happened between he and I, it was strictly a student/coach relationship. Well, I always thought he was hot but obviously this was just an innocent crush. Fast forward to today. He sends me a message on FB asking how I'm doing, how's my marriage. I say great, just busy chasing B around, and how was married life for him? (he just got remarried about six months ago). He replied that his marriage was good most of the time. (odd) and then asked how long I'd been married and what I'd been up to...and if I ever go back to our hometown. I replied 5 1/2 years, not often, and ended the conversation by saying have a good weekend. I had H read the convo and he totally thinks that he was trying to dig if things were okay between H and I in order to see how far I would let it go. I think it was an innocent hey hope you're doing well. H and I have a joint FB page and I wouldn't think he would be that bold (although it is obvious that H is never on it.) anywho--thoughts? H isn't mad or anything and he said he just thinks it's guy code for "let's get it on".
What do you think? Innocent or not?
I got a FB message from a man who coached me in high school. Nothing ever happened between he and I, it was strictly a student/coach relationship. Well, I always thought he was hot but obviously this was just an innocent crush. Fast forward to today. He sends me a message on FB asking how I'm doing, how's my marriage. I say great, just busy chasing B around, and how was married life for him? (he just got remarried about six months ago). He replied that his marriage was good most of the time. (odd) and then asked how long I'd been married and what I'd been up to...and if I ever go back to our hometown. I replied 5 1/2 years, not often, and ended the conversation by saying have a good weekend. I had H read the convo and he totally thinks that he was trying to dig if things were okay between H and I in order to see how far I would let it go. I think it was an innocent hey hope you're doing well. H and I have a joint FB page and I wouldn't think he would be that bold (although it is obvious that H is never on it.) anywho--thoughts? H isn't mad or anything and he said he just thinks it's guy code for "let's get it on".
What do you think? Innocent or not?
Re: Popping in to solve a little topic between the H and I :)
Ok- I'm the queen of "trust your spouse" as I'm totally cool with my DH working all night long with hot young things
However, if one of them asked him how our marriage was and he said, "It's good...most of the time") I'd be unhappy about that, especially because he's never expressed any marital unhappiness to me before. There's nothing else in there that sets off alarms for me, but that one line is sort of skeevy.
That said, I sometimes joke about (and try to make it clear by my tone) that I'm joking about) how awesome it is to have a "part time husband" since DH works constantly every other week, then is off the following week. I really am an independent person and I get tons of work done while DH is working so that we can spend a ton of time together (seriously, like almost all of our time) when he's not. If you didn't know how over the moon I am about Dh, though, I can see how that my comment might come off as weird. So, maybe it's something like that? An innocent, flippant remark that doesn't translate well in writing?
Still, is there any real reason to stay in close contact with this guy? If you do want to be just friendly with him but he wants to be more, no worries---he'll stop contacting you soon as soon as he finds out you're not interested in anything more. If you want to be just friendly with him but his comment was just being flip, he won't make any more of them and you can move forward with the casual friendship.
Ok- I'm one of those girls- sorry. I never thought of it that way.
I actually feel weird about asking personal questions/having personal conversations (like "how's married life?" or "do you like your new job" or "how's motherhood treating you?") via wall. Those seem like private convos. to me. I'd message someone for that. Maybe it's a generational thing?
I don't know if I completely agree w/this. I send people (both male/female) private messages all the time and it is very innocent. It is usually because I don't want to clog their wall up with endless chatter.
Dh and I both receive messages from the opposite sex and no one has ever said anything inappropriate, it was for the aforementioned reasons. I had one girl comment on a few pictures of dh rather suspiciously. She used words such as "sexy" and "wow, still have the beautiful smile" but it didn't bother me because as soon as she wrote it dh told me to look at it. Chalked that up to an old crazed flame.
Eh. My take is that he was just being friendly.
Then again, I'm most always pretty laid back about that kind of stuff when it goes on. I mean, if it were me who had gotten the message, I wouldn't have thought anything about it. Same as if it were H who had gotten the message. No biggie.
I'd totally be suspicious. If the guy lets it go, I'd let it go - but if he messages you again, I'd be cautious about it.
Not knowing the guy, I could see where it could be totally innocent or totally not. If he wasn't innocent, he was toeing the line pretty well.
DH has a lot of women from his graduating class who message him and stuff. Some are totally innocent, and some (namely one) aren't. I don't give it too much thought though because I know he's not going to act on it.
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