Family Matters
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Mother in law issues
Well in all honesty i am not actually married yet but will be very soon that is if my future MIL will stop being so problematic! My FI and I have been engaged for well over a year now and wanted to push our date forward due to not a lot of money to spend on a wedding and our now overwhelming impaticence to finally be married, However his mother is a nightmare! We changed our date to accomidate her and its not good enough! one second shes fine with the plan and next the world is falling apart. She's ruined all chances of us having a nice wedding so we are now eloping and it breaks my heart that she' treating us so badly. She even blames me for not moving our wedding date (again) for her when my Fi and I chose not to together! she horrible, and well I mostly just need to vent.
Re: Mother in law issues
Age?
Do not get married if you can not afford it. Love doesnt pay the bills.
She didnt ruin all the plans, you let her manipulate you and made your own choices.
Your MIL problems will get a lot worse, and ignoring them thinking that your love will fix it all, is a delusion. Do not get married until you have this worked out.
Your FI is the one who needs to take charge of his mother. If he is not going to step up to mom your marriage will be short lived.
If your FI is not adult enough to say, "Mom. This is our wedding and we will have it when we want. Either you will make it a priority and be there, or you won't be there. It is up to you," then he is not adult enough to be married.
She is not being like this because you're engaged. She's being like this because she is because her son has not made there be any consequences. Trust me (and Mags), it won't just get better because you're married.
Why are you giving this woman so much power over your lives? Where is your FI in all of this?
I hope that's not your full name in your siggy and logon. Too many creepy internet stalkers to put that info out there. You might want to close this account and start a new one.
Don't let MIL control your happiness. Which means you need FI to stand up to her. Fix that before you get married.
Who attacked you? Nobody was even remotely rude to you!
I'm guessing you're maybe 18.