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Confession

With the exception of Kathy and Ang, I feel like by the time DH and I ttc and actually get pregnant everyone will be on #2 or too busy being moms to be around and then I won't have anyone to share the good news with.  Embarrassed

Sorry DH and I had some come to jesus talks this weekend and it looks like ttc will be pushed even further or we won't be able to do the necessary home renovations.

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  • I'm right there with you!!! With Dh and I still living at my parents for prob another 6mths-1yr, then trying to either buy or rent then buy it will be a few years still before we will think about ttc.  maybe 2013? 

    I want us to be not only more financially stable, but to be able to have a few years to ourselves.  We're not in a crazy hurry.  I'm still young, but I feel you on thinking that by the time we have our first... all our friends will be onto #2 or be done completely having kids.  But we do have some unmarried friends who maybe will be married by that point and will have kids the same age as ours.  who knows. 

    Better for you guys to be ready though than to hurry to have kids the same age as your friends kids. 

  • I'm totally there with you. We've decided, and really it is the best decision for us, that we're not even going to stop preventing until the summer before I graduate. After the MBA we'll start actively trying.

    It's silly, but I'm sort of feeling left behind. And the crazy baby rabies does not help things. But I know what a drain the program has been on my energy and time already and I can't imagine adding expecting a baby to that mix.

    I'm disappointed, but I know it'll be so much better if we wait until we're really ready. Plus there are a few things we want to do before baby-making kicks into full swing and I know we'll put it off for a really long time or not do it at all if we were to get pregnant right now.

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  • We were looking at 2013, but I can't imagine with a cruise and a huge bathroom remodel next year, a big trip to Alaska in 2012, that by 2013 we'll still be ready financially.  I am sort of networking for another promotion in a year or so, but that job could come with a lot of additional work, meaning children would be hard at that point.  I love my dad to death, but even he admits that it was hard to balance kids, marriage and work and he climbed the ladder pretty quickly.

    I already feel like DH is the sole doggy provider, let alone if we had a child.

  • I'm not going anywhere and I will be very happy for you when you and DH decide to TTC. 

    It really is all about finding the right time for the two of you.  You've got other priorities right now and that's perfect. 

    I'm actually a little bit surprised that we don't have anybody with two on this board yet.

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  • I think the reason we are not waiting is because we are older (I'm 34 and DH is 35).  Otherwise we would probably but it off a couple years - after DH returns from his next possible deployment.
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  • Y'all are crazy. We will definitely be here for you to share with. And if not here, then FB at least. I think we're all friends for a long, long, time and nothing will change to make us less excited for you!

    And please note - ONE AND DONE family here!!!! I'll live vicariously through the rest of you!

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  • imageshelley1002:
    I think the reason we are not waiting is because we are older (I'm 34 and DH is 35).  Otherwise we would probably but it off a couple years - after DH returns from his next possible deployment.

    This is the hardest part for me, although DH doesn't seem to mind, is that if we wait until 2013 when I'm 31, DH will be 40 that year.  I don't want him to have a kid graduating high school when he's almost 60?  I feel like that's not fair to him and he'll somehow miss out on his golden years?

     

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    We would have been there right with you. I would have loved to be a house owner before a parent. And it will always be good news, even if some of us are on number 6!

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  • Please, I am not going anywhere! I promise to be ecstatic for you when the time comes. I love this board and do not plan on going anywhere.
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  • imageSSM&JLM:

    imageshelley1002:
    I think the reason we are not waiting is because we are older (I'm 34 and DH is 35).  Otherwise we would probably but it off a couple years - after DH returns from his next possible deployment.

    This is the hardest part for me, although DH doesn't seem to mind, is that if we wait until 2013 when I'm 31, DH will be 40 that year.  I don't want him to have a kid graduating high school when he's almost 60?  I feel like that's not fair to him and he'll somehow miss out on his golden years?

    Jim was 41 and I 38 when we had Duncan... which means he'll be in his 60's and I'll be close behind... and if we have a 2nd (which are still thinking on) we'll be even older. Good parents are good parents no matter what age.

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  • You aren't alone.  I had a meltdown a couple months ago about how I feel old and worry about the ease of it in three years which is when we plan to TTC.  I have my moments, but I know it is better for us to wait.  We love our life now and there are still some places we want to travel to.  Also, for us personally, this is our time to do whatever we want.  We promised my ILs that BIL will live with us when the time comes.  He has schizophrenia so while a lot of people will enjoy retirement and be free to come and go it will be slightly different for us.
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    imageshelley1002:
    I think the reason we are not waiting is because we are older (I'm 34 and DH is 35).  Otherwise we would probably but it off a couple years - after DH returns from his next possible deployment.

    This is the hardest part for me, although DH doesn't seem to mind, is that if we wait until 2013 when I'm 31, DH will be 40 that year.  I don't want him to have a kid graduating high school when he's almost 60?  I feel like that's not fair to him and he'll somehow miss out on his golden years?

    Jim was 41 and I 38 when we had Duncan... which means he'll be in his 60's and I'll be close behind... and if we have a 2nd (which are still thinking on) we'll be even older. Good parents are good parents no matter what age.



    I agree with that.  I had a friend in high school whose dad was in his 70s when she was a freshman.

    And I don't plan on going anywhere.  This board is to great to give up.
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  • I'm with you Shaina. Our original TTC goal was summer 2011, but I feel like every time we talk about it, it gets pushed back. Everyone here will be on #2 or #3, or satified with their "one and done" status, and our future hypothetical new babies just won't be exciting anymore. :(

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  • I'm sure no matter what happens we'll all be happy for each other.

    I guess my biggest issues is I feel like we'll never be financially ready for a kid.  Daycare is expensive.  I refuse to have credit card debit and we drained our efund for new siding.

    Now DH is on the phone trying to refinance and everyone says no or can only lower our payment $100.  We were just so uneducated when we bought our house.

  • I don't think you can ever fully be financially ready for a child. I thought we were when I got pregnant. I didn't have a realistic picture of how much I would spend on diapers and formula each month. I also planned on only BFing for the 3 months I was home, but that didn't work for us.
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  • imageSSM&JLM:

    I'm sure no matter what happens we'll all be happy for each other.

    I guess my biggest issues is I feel like we'll never be financially ready for a kid.  Daycare is expensive.  I refuse to have credit card debit and we drained our efund for new siding.

    Now DH is on the phone trying to refinance and everyone says no or can only lower our payment $100.  We were just so uneducated when we bought our house.

    I completely meant to reply here when you first posted.

    I think you guys are being incredibly responsible, and like pp said good parents are good parents!!! If I wasn't turning 34 this spring we absolutely would still be waiting, geez I already pushed it back a year and half later than I always said I would. I like your 2013 plan, at that point you will be in such a different place, even if you think financially you won't be ready I bet you will surprise yourself. We only just figured out daycare for the most part but even when we started we weren't completely as ready as I would like to be but seriously you could give yourself an ulcer over thinking all of it.

    I believe our board can make it through and stay strong, and everyone will be cheering for you when you do get nice and ku!!!!

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