October 2009 Weddings
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Did anyone
on this board not live with their DH prior to getting married? Just curious.
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LOL, I guess we're pretty progressive because DH and I moved in together 4 months after we met! To be fair, we both hated our roommate situations and since apartments are so expensive and that one basically fell into our laps (in Feb. 2006, close to 4 years before wedding day), we would have been crazy not to take it. It worked out pretty well I'd say!
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I didn't know if you wanted to hear either way, but DH and I did live together before getting married. We lived together for a year before getting engaged, then we were engaged for 2.5 years, so we lived together for 3.5 years before our wedding day.
So funny, Kel, Juan and I were in a kind of similar situation...I moved to DC from Vermont after graduating college and stayed with Juan at his parents house because I wasn't sure where I'd want to live yet...I ended up staying there with him for almost a year because I was making crap money and rent here is ridiculous. We'd only been dating for 5 months when I moved here...guess it worked out for the best, though!
We lived together for 5 years before we were married.
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We did but again, it was the perfect storm type situation. DH was renting a bedroom at his buddy's townhouse and it wasn't going well. I was renting my 2nd bedroom and my tenant was leaving to get married. So... DH moved in as my renter!
I had to fight a huge battle with my parents who, while pretty progressive, were surprisingly "old fashioned" about living together before marriage. They clammed up pretty quick when I pointed out that by the time they were my age, they had been married 4 years and had one 2 year old kiddo and another baby on the way! Also surprisingly, when my sister took a job in Chicago and her then boyfriend decided to move out there with her, they didn't bat an eye. lol, sometimes it totally stinks being the "experimental child" as I fondly call it. I fight the battles so my sisters don't have to!
We lived together for a year and a half before we got engaged and had a 10 month engagement. We've been together for 4 years total and lived under the same roof for 3 of that.
We must be even more progressive b/c we moved in together less than 2 months after we started dating. We met the week before Christmas, talked via email and phone until our first date on 1/17. Spent every single day/night together from that night on. He got an apartment (he was just back from the USMC), moved his stuff into it, and never spent more than a total of 8 hours there, never even stayed the night. I had a house and he moved in w/ me in late February/early March I think (it feels like ages ago!). Haven't looked back since and don't regret it for a single second.
I'm with you girls. My husband and I started living together a few months after we started dating as well. And we lived together for 7 years before getting married.
We lived together for 2 years before getting married--a year before getting engaged. I wonder what it would have been like if we had waited.
For those of you who waited, what was it like your first month of living together? Did everything fall into place? Did you/he have habits that drove the other batty?
Our first month (and on) was so smooth. I could not have asked for anything better than it was in complete honestly. There were two things I thought would drive me nuts: DH having multiple forms of media on at once (TV, internet, music, etc...) all the time and DH going to bed really late. The media thing wasn't an issue becuase we decided not to pay for cable or TV related (he moved into my place and I never watch TV) so the TV is only on in the living room when we have it connected to the laptop to watch movies or shows online. And DH adjusted his sleep schedule so we'd be more on the same page in that area. He still goes to bed a little later than I do but it's early enough that I don't get woken up from a dead sleep.
Other than that, we'd been together long enough and known eachother long enough before dating that there weren't any weird habits we weren't already aware of.
And along with Karen, I think it was a really great thing to completely start our life together at that point. I'd totally do it again that way if we were to start over.
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We lived together before getting married as well. Neither one of us are really sure when we started dating or when we officially moved in together. I was at his place all the time, and just sort of ended up staying; eventually my old roomie just asked if he could rent my half of the house out to someone else. I think we lived together for 6 or 7 years before we were married.
So did you guys who waited have a smooth transition? I can't fathom not having adjusted to each other LONG before we got married - how did it go?