April 2008 Weddings
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Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Mrs Skiz
Oh I thought I was the only one who couldn't get on the other board at work!
Go ahead and post here. Most of the time right now, at work, I'm bored out of my mind. I'm regretting switching jobs internally right now and miss my old one! But I'll respond. I have to admit, I haven't even checked here as much just because it's so dead. But I'll talk to you and stuff. And I can try to keep you updated on what's going on. Carrie (MrsR I think, right?) and Kristie are both pregnant...
That's the big news right now from the other board. (And anyone else checking here I won't post really private things but I figure the pregnancy news is ok on here, right? If not, let me know and I'll DD or edit this post.)
Re: Mrs Skiz
I posted this before I read your response to my thread about crying at work. I'm worried about going to a doctor because I don't want to get put on a medicine and then not be able to get off of it. I do think I have signs of depression but I'm hoping I can pull through this. I'm actually at least seeing the hypnotist about the needle phobia and he's working through the in general problem I have about not being able to relax, which actually is (I think) helping with the other stuff as well.
And as time goes on, I'm accepting the fact that I can't depend on my family and that I really have lost my dad at this point. I don't know what he's thinking, this is all because I wanted to tell him I was hurt and just asked him why he didn't defend me. He got all defensive and it spiraled. I did say one mean thing but apologized for that, and apparently he deleted the apology email without even reading it. <sigh> I couldn't get over this because my mom was pressuring me to "fix it" but I didn't know what to do- so when I would start to maybe feeling better and think about other things she would call to tell me how upset they are, etc. I had already apologized (didn't tell her because I didn't want to put her in the middle) and he wouldn't/won't speak to me. So.... we'll see. But I think if I can just accept it and move on I'll be able to get out of this. It's just really hard and I'm struggling.
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Dealing with a family issue like this is hard especially since you are trying to deal with it and not getting any kind of reponse at all. If your mom keeps pressuring you she is putting herself in the middle of things and I think you should let her know that you did in fact try to work things out with your dad. Have you ever had issues like this with your dad before or is this a one time thing? Im sure this issue plus the fact that you are not happy about your decision to change positions has all come together and made one big dark cloud in your mind.
The one good thing about depression medication is that they can wean you off fairly quickly and start you off on a very low dosage. My one major complaint and this is the reason I stopped taking my meds was because of the sexual side effects.
Stick with the hypnotist if that works for you. IMO anything besides meds is a good try first.
Haha well probably TMI but I don't feel very frisky much right now anyways (plus I gained about 8 pounds since this happened, blah!!! definitely doesn't help me feel better).
No, this isn't a one time thing with my dad. It's a long story but it's ironic that about a week before he came here and all this happened, my mom had told him that he really needed to sit down and talk to me sometime, that I'm already upset and... just lots going on there. He tends to... we get upset with each other (very similar personalities actually) but he will refuse to talk about it, internalize it, resolve it himself, and then figure everything is ok. But it's not, with me, because I really feel the need to talk it out. But it's never been THIS bad. I have a feeling it would have happened over something, at some point, though.
I've always felt... like he's a control freak (he is) and that unless I do what he wants, when he wants, the way he wants, I'm not his daughter. I don't know if that makes sense. It's more than that. Lots more, that has been building and building since I can remember. And that's exactly how it was at the game. He ended up basically saying that he didn't defend me when I was (in his words) being verbally abused or even when it got physical. And that was because I didn't agree with him reporting these people in the first place (I don't know if you saw the whole story- I put it on the other board). He said since I didn't agree with him that there was no way he was going to do anything for me because if I didn't agree then he wouldn't help and I was on my own. <sigh> Which of course really upset me, and I do feel like he's a conditional dad. How could a father stand by and watch their daughter be subject to that?
If you didn't see the post on the other board I can email you what happened. It's stupid that that instance led to all this but like I said, it's been building.
How was Phish btw??? Did you guys dress up in costumes?
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