What do you call your MIL (clicky poll)

missmis99 · November 2010

On my wedding day, my MIL told me that I can now officially call her "mom" I am still a little uncomfortable with this and still call her by her first name. So it got me wondering. What do you call your MIL?[Poll]

erincassidy06 · November 2010

Yeah were not to that point yet. Maybe someday Huh?

jessNlane52804 · November 2010

I will never call her mom. She signs "Mom" in cards and such and it makes me really uncomfortable, although I haven't said anything. I have a mom and I am very close to her, so it feels insulting to my real mother for MIL to refer to herself as my mom.

alexilyse · November 2010

I don't think I could ever call her Mom.

branz7 · November 2010

I call her by her first name, and my H calls my mom by her first name. Each mother signs cards, etc. as "Mom" if it's a card for both of us. But for a card for just me, like my bday, my MIL always writes her name in the card.

Kathiiy · November 2010

branz7:
I call her by her first name, and my H calls my mom by her first name. Each mother signs cards, etc. as "Mom" if it's a card for both of us. But for a card for just me, like my bday, my MIL always writes her name in the card.

It's the same in our household.

I will never call DH's parents Mum and Dad.

goldengirl8710 · November 2010

I call my MIL by her first name as well. I just feels weird to refer to her as mom. MAYBE (and that's a BIG maybe) I'll call her mom one day....b/c I know she'd love it if I did.

louieblue · November 2010

I call her 'Mom' and she calls me 'Daughter'. But how often do you actually refer to people by their name? I mostly address her by 'you', as in "Hey! Haven't talked to you in a while! How are you and SFIL doing?" DH is the same. When he is speaking to someone about my parents, he'll refer to them by their first name, but he never actually calls them by it.

MIL signs all cards 'Mom' and I sign all mine with my first name.

I don't feel uncomfortable/comfortable calling her anything. It is what it is. Yeah, I'm really close to my own mother, but just because I call my MIL 'Mom' doesn't take away from my relationship with my own mom. I don't put that much emphasis on names: DH and I hardly ever refer to each other as anything but 'Honey'.

MollySm · November 2010

H and his mom are not very close, and she lives far away (Kuwait), so I actually don't call her anything. I am hoping to avoid the whole thing until we have kids, and then I'll probably call her Nonna, because that's what the grandkids call her.

That being said, if H was close with his mother I would probably be working towards calling her mom. And though my mother passed away, I know that's what she would want so I don't think it would be disrespectful.

bfernz · November 2010

I try to avoid having to address ILs by first name. Hoping that when we have kids I can just call them grandma/grandpa.

Cray.anita · November 2010

I do not have a MIL, she passed away a year before the wedding. However I thought I would weigh in anyways! Smile

If MIL was still alive I would still be calling her by her first name. DH calls my mom by her first name and it jsut seems natural. I call FIL by his first name (even though it is super confusing because DH is a jr. and there are also 2 cousins by that name and DH's best friend also has the same first name). I can say DH's name at a family gathering and am guaranteed that 5 people will come over because they thought I was saying their name!

e_jakiela · November 2010

I come from Poland, and we never call any of the adults, especially friends/ BF's or Fiance's parents by first names. We always call them Mrs. Mr. It was so hard to try to avoid calling her either this way or by her first name for the last three years. I am so happy that now I can call her Mom and not have to feel weird. Once we have kids, she will become Grammy.

srveatch · November 2010

I usually refer to her by her first name but if she isn't listening I say... "Mom" and it gets her attention...that is only when her kids are around. She just seems to respond better

reddy123 · November 2010

We call both of our parents mom and dad. I am closer with H's parents than I am with mine. FIL loves to call me daughter.

aweilba · November 2010

I don't think that I'll ever call my MIL mom. I call her by her first name. I'm not very close with her, and am not really sure if I'll ever feel that close with her. I like her and everything, but I don't feel very connected to her, especially after she kept saying, "You're taking my baby," the entire time we were planning our wedding. She signs cards Mom and calls me daughter, but I don't think I'll ever call her mom.

moshi's paw · November 2010

I could probably end up calling DH's dad "Dad" someday, but MIL will NEVER ever be Mom

noodle_oo · November 2010

I call my MIL "Mrs. Lastname". I doubt we'll ever be close enough for me to call her anything more familiar. I'm not sure what she calls me, she never really refers to me directly.

noodle_oo · November 2010

aweilba:
I don't think that I'll ever call my MIL mom. I call her by her first name. I'm not very close with her, and am not really sure if I'll ever feel that close with her. I like her and everything, but I don't feel very connected to her, especially after she kept saying, "You're taking my baby," the entire time we were planning our wedding. She signs cards Mom and calls me daughter, but I don't think I'll ever call her mom.

Haha, this is very similar to how my MIL feels. At our wedding, she basically told me how lucky I was to be getting her son and how she wishes she was me!! Weird...

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