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Wedding invite ettiquette
Today I received an invitation from a friend for her wedding.
Th invite is worded as "we invite DH and Kate louise to join us in the celebration of our marriage." followed by the venue/date/time details etc.
There is no mention of a separate reception. ie, "with a reception to follow at...."
So ordinarily I would assume we were invited to the ceremony and not the reception.
But we've messaging each other on facebook and she wrote:
The wedding plans are coming along really well. We are getting married on the terrace at _________ and then all having dinner at ______. It is a beautiful spot and perfect for a small wedding (only 40 people).
Which implies all wedding guests will be invited to both ceremony and reception.
The wedding is 2 hours away and we have a 1 yr old so we'd need to organise accommodation and a sitter
So do I assume we're going to the recption and arrange a sitter and acoommodation? Assume we're not going to the reception? Email her and ask for clarification?
I'd love to go to reception but don't want to put her in an awkward spot.
Thoughts?
Thanks
Re: Wedding invite ettiquette
Did she tell you the times of the wedding and dinner? Because being invited to the "celebration" tells me you're invited to a party AFTER the wedding. (Which I personally have issue w/ in and of itself.) WHat time does your invitation say in relation to th etime of her wedding?
But if that still doesn't clear it up- definitely ask her.
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when i got married, our reception was in the same venue as the ceremony, guests just had to go through a door, so i didn't put a "reception to follow" on the invite. i assumed people would know they were invited to both...who invites someone to JUST the ceremony?
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I bet she just worded it strangely / wrongly... I agree with whoever said it technically reads like you're only invited to the reception, but I bet it's both. You should ask to be sure, but maybe be careful how you ask because I think she just made a mistake, and she will probably get stressed about it!
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Yeah that's actually how I read it too, but as the time says 4pm that seemed more like a ceremony time than a party time.
The only time I know is 4pm, so I have no idea if she's having a ceremony earlier or that is the ceremony time.
To PP who asked about who invites people to ceremony and not the reception, I've seen to/been invited to a few weddings like that.
Thanks everyone, this definitely confirms that this invite isn't clear, I just wanted to check that I wasn't missing something obvious.
When I asked her I thought I'd just say something along the lines of, "I'm probably being really dense, and I don't want to put you on the spot, it's just you mentioned you'd be having a dinner for your wedding and I just wanted to clarify if we're invited to that part of the evening.
I completely understand if we're not and we're pleased to be invited regardless, it's just we need to know so we can think about accommodation and a babysitter."