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kids seeing you naked
Hello all,
My daughter just turned 2 and right now shes always in the bathroom with us weather its for a shower or going to the bathroom. We are 1st time parents and I grew up with very conservative household and my husband didn't. When does it become inapproriate for your kids to see you naked? I may be over thinking this....
Re: kids seeing you naked
I wouldn't worry about it at 2. My DS is almost 2 and he sees us naked and actually watches me pee. I don't mind because I'm using it to teach him about the concept of using a potty, etc.
May be TMI, but he will actually go and get you some toilet paper and then will flush. He does it too early- but it cracks me up that he's bascially my bathroom valet.
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OP, I'm a prudish nudist but I also didn't want my kids to be ashamed about their bodies. I didn't mind them in the bathroom when they were under age 5. Like ECB noted, observation is a great way to teach them about potty and about bodies in general. I never walked around nude, per se, but they would see me briefly toweling off after a shower or my H using the toilet.
Using a toilet to urinate/defecate is NOT a natural thing to do. Children can't learn it unless they see it modeled for them!
As long as you'ren not being exhibitionists about it, I don't think there's some huge deal about a toddler seeing parental nudity. There's a much larger danger, IMHO, of an unsupervised toddler getting into trouble while the parents are in the bathroom with the door closed than there is a danger of a child being somehow permanently scarred by seeing his/her parents drying off after a shower or using the toilet.
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I grew up in a household that was very conservative about many things but completely relaxed about nudity.
My parents would walk naked from the shower to their bedroom, and swim naked in our pool.
They are 72. I still see them naked on occasion.
I don't think it's about age but about context. Of course you're naked in the shower, and if it's easiest or most convenient for your LO to be in the bathroom with you then they will see you, and i think that's completely ok.
I think as long as you teach kids about modesty in public, when people visit, the courtesy of knocking on a bathroom door etc etc then they will develop their own sense of, "I don't want to see Mum naked" in their own time.
This was how I was raised and how I raised DD. We did a lot of camping and 'the women of the house' would still go to showers together at the campground. It wasn't a big deal even in our teens. Even today if I were taking a shower at parents house I would not have a problem if my mom needed to come into the bathroom for something.
This might be due to a German upbringing, but I remember when I was growing up, I would sit in the bathroom with my mom while she took a bath all the time. All of us girls did.
We didn't think it was strange and some of the best talks we ever had one on one occurred then.
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I was raised in a super conservative household, but my mom frequently walked around the house in the nude. I mean, she didn't strip down just to hang out, but if she would walk around the house nude while she got dressed (even ironing nude occasionally). Even now, if I'm at her house while she's getting dressed, we'll hang out in the bathroom talking while we do our make-up and she's generally not dressed! Her reasoning was that obviously, my dad was used to her body and my sister and I came out of it, so no need to get modest now!
However, I am a prude and I am ALWAYS dressed.
I should note that my dad was NEVER nude. I never saw him wearing less than a full bathrobe or shorts and t-shirt. I think that would have freaked me out.
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LMAO. Kiddo does exactly this. He's like velcro when we get home from daycare. He'll come in to the bathroom with me. Once he hears I'm done peeing he says "Mama done!" and gets me some TP.
The benefit, though, is that when I'm downstairs w/ him and really need to go, and he's playing, I can say "Mommy needs to go pee pee. Can you come up w/ me?" and he jumps up and leads the way.
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
DD does too. She also needs to say 'bye-bye wawa' when we flush.