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In a major sex slump~ tips?
DH and I are in a major sex slump. Sex used to be great and longer than 5 minutes! We then had a baby (who is now 7 months), literally had sex 2 times the entire pregnancy and maybe once a month now. It lasts about 5 minutes and is just to orgasm. It is booooooring and I am hating it and starting to have some wondering thoughts that are concerning me a bit. We NEVER kiss/makeout anymore even before sex and it's really starting to bother me.
Can anyone rec a cockring? Do they have non disposable ones that vibrate? I'm also still a bit sore in the area since having the baby, so hopefully that will go away soon too. Any other tips please?!
Re: In a major sex slump~ tips?
I think that getting out of the house and out of "mommy/daddy" mode might help the situation. Try a date night just to remind yourself that you two are a romantic couple.
While at dinner, ban talking about the baby and just be grownups. Tell him how much you miss the sex you guys used to have. Tell him how much you miss the making out like teenagers. Tell him how hot just thinking about your past sexual encounters has made you. DO NOT tell him that he has become the "minute man" -- no one responds well to sexual criticism.
Thank you. We really are in mommydaddy mode 24/7 and it really takes a lot away from what we used to be! We're also talking about baby #2 and that brings baby making sex, not hot exciting sex!
A date night would probably be good. We have not been out alone in months.
lovers lane, they all different types.
i agree with what other pp said
I'm actually a Nestie AND a Romance Enhancement Consultant for Slumber Parties by Denise. I've seen this issue MANY times and I agree with what the women have posted.
Go on a date together sans the baby. It will get you back to where you were before babyland.
Also, we sell amazing c-rings that are wonderful! My recommendation is the Standing O. Waterproof, wireless and will last longer than a disposable one!
Go to my website if you want more info. Just google Slumber Parties by Denise.com
Hope this helps you out!
I want to add on to her comment. . .they are cheap as well! MH has one of those ones and it helps.
I definitely think a nice date night with NO BABY TALK is very important, especially since you're saying that thoughts about Baby #2 are coming up. I definitely think some "sexy talk" like about things that you used to like, etc. may make him feel desirable and could lead to something a little more passionate than the most recent stuff (perhaps refer to the "highlight reel" - ex: "Remember that time that we..." <wink-wink>). I hope that you guys get out of your slump and conceive Baby #2 during a really hot session.
Best of luck to you!
"Can anyone rec a cockring? Do they have non disposable ones that vibrate?"
http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/***-rings/sp-his-and-hers-rabbits-cockring-14684.aspx
Seems like everyone hit on the topic of re-romancing! But for kissing...my DH and I had that little slump where we forgot where our lips were too. One night we made a little game of kissing only, hands above the waist, with a timer of 10 mins, it was fun and worked too.
The bad thing about the vibrating c-rings that you can purchase from Trojan is that they are one time use, AND there is no off switch. So they are there buzzing in your trash can the rest of the night.
As for Adam and Eve, I've heard they "refurbish toys" so I stay away from their company. Not positive if that is true or not.
As a friend I'd suggest taking a little time for yourself, do something that makes you feel like a woman, that makes you feel sexy. Change your hair, buy a sexy nightie, new perfume, whatever it is that boosts you a little. Then, I'd suggest bringing something new into the bedroom...
I'm a Pure Romance consultant, we have a product called the Jelly C-ring and it is AMAZING. Its a remote controlled C-ring with 7 different speeds. Besides your basic low to high, it pulses, revs, there is a setting for each day of the week. Not saying that that is what you need, just my suggestion to your C-ring question. You can message me if you have questions.
Hope that helps!!