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Has this happened to you?
Yesterday I went to see Otto at work for lunch 
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Two of his co-workers got married just about a month after we did. Both the husband and wife work on his floor. Pretty neat huh? )
When we came back from Disney they had about a week or two before their big day! So yesterday was the first time I could really catch up with them, since they had returned from their honeymoon not long ago. I saw some of her pictures at her desk and I was floored ) What a great wedding they had!! But she said to me that we really put the pressure on because our wedding looked great.
I know that we spent a lot of time making our wedding really personal and true to who we are- but I never imagined it would have that affect on an upcoming bride for her day. I mean I know here we talked back and forth ad compared/ contrasted our weddings --- but to have someone say something Knottie-ish out IRL.... it was just weird to "hear" it. I mean I guess it made me feel cool for a minute-- but I didn't want her to feel like hers was less than ours in ANY way....they had a BEAUTIFUL wedding )
Have you guys had anyone say things like this about your wedding??
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
Re: Has this happened to you?
Most of our friends are already married since we're a bit older, so I haven't heard anyone specifically saying that our wedding pressured them. We did have a lot of people tell us that they loved our wedding b/c they could tell how much work I put in, and that they wished they'd done some of the same stuff.
Definitely flattering. But I know what you mean. It's not like someone's wedding was less than yours; just different. As they should be to reflect each person's individual taste.
Datsyuks & Ferdy- We Go Together Like...
We got married two moths after Richard's cousin. At the wedding and after people kept complimenting us on a beautiful wedding, that it was the best they've ever been too, and they said "I wonder how Cebrina feels?"
I wasn't at all intentionally trying to make my wedding better than hers, just wanted to make it mine. I waited so long for this moment that I wanted my dream wedding to come true. The crazy thing is that we probably spent less money than she did.
I have a friend/co-worker who is getting married in May, and she also happens to be on TK. We chat about wedding stuff pretty often, and sometimes I cringe a little because she will say something judgmental about someone's wedding on a club or local board and I wonder what she thought of ours. I loved our wedding, and I wouldn't have changed anything, but I guess I don't like the idea of someone picking apart every little detail, KWIM? I know that's the opposite of what you're talking about, Ferdy, but it reminded me.
On the flip side, I was surprised (and flattered) when people complimented our ceremony, or some of our little details, because it seems like usually people (who aren't planning weddings themselves) don't really notice that stuff. We even tell brides that on here!
I've had a lot of people comment on how beautiful the ceremony was and how they could feel the love between us.
A lot of people have commented on my candy buffet and what an awesome job I did. My sister and my cousin are both using my centerpieces so that made me feel special.
Me too. I was actually surprised how many people complimented my DIY projects and knew that I'd put so much time into stuff. I honestly expected I'd be the only one that would appreciate how it all came together. It was such a nice surprise to hear it from so many other people.
None of DH's friends are married yet and they all mentioned that we set the bar super high. None of them are engaged yet, so I don't feel like they felt pressure from it or anything like that. I have some friends that are getting married this upcoming year and they both loved the wedding and told me I gave them some great ideas. They are not shy about coming to me with question or asking for advice on things, but we all know that our weddings need to be ours and not copycat weddings.
My mom's cousin got married a couple months before we did and many of my family members compared our weddings...with the general consensus that our food, locations, etc were much better. I have to say my feelings were not hurt since her family is all about throwing around their money and imaginary status and in general think they are better than everyone.
I do have a local girl here that said she would like my help planning her wedding in July. Her FMIL was just killed in a car accident last weekend when they were all on their way to go dress shopping. I really hope I can help her through the process.
OMG. That's awful. Good thing she has you to help though a rough time.