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My Sister and the High School Creep
My sister and I are extremely close despite our six year age difference, and the fact we live 200 miles apart.I was excited to hear my sister was dating someone new- less enthused when I found out I had gone to high school with the individual. It's not that I didn't like him in high school, we were in completely different social circles and our paths didn't cross much. It's more so some of the ridiculous stories I am hearing now- and rumors that this guy is telling my sister.
He is basically telling her that I was wildly promiscuous and gossiping things that are not at all true, or if sort of true are extremely exaggerated. They are really weird too! These are all things that allegedly happened 10+ years ago so I can't imagine why he would even bring something like that up. I haven't seen or lived in the same area with this person in probably 7 or 8 years.
I thought maybe to diffuse the situation I would invite the two of them to visit me in Boston from New York, but so far they have declined the invitations. I want to be the bigger person and put the past in the past but I am pretty pissed at this guy right about now!
Re: My Sister and the High School Creep
I'd find a way to reach him and go one on one with him -- tell him his lies are unacceptable and he should cut it out posthaste.
Don't tolerate this mess. GL.
He's lying about you a smearing your name around and your response is to invite him to your home to host a visit?
Why don't you expect your sister to believe you and defend your good name to some looser boyfriend?
I would not invite someone who bad-mouthed me to visit. I don't really think that will ever "clear the air," and what happens if you decide while they are visiting that he is a huge a-hole?
If you are close with your sister, I would tell her "I'm not going to tell you who to date, but I am going to tell you that this guy is making up stories about me that aren't true. Knowing what you told me (about what he is telling you), I would question what else he lies about. If you want to date someone who lies, that is your choice."
Would you date someone who you knew lied about your sister? I guess it wouldn't matter if you were soooooooooo in looooooooooooove! But most people would see that as a red flag concerning their character.
Also wierd that he is SO interested in your past. Maybe at one time her was interested in you, and now he is getting the next best thing?
+1
This.
Is it possible that you were in some "popular" crowd that considered his affiliated group losers or something?
My late sister dated a couple of guys from my high school class who were not exactly "high acheivers" who painted me as stuck up or a snob because I didn't associate with them. Hey, there were 1200 kids in my graduating class and I was in an all honors track, I didn't get to know these people.
Thanks guys! My sister definitely has some growing up to do- she has really low self esteem and typically dates guys she is much too good for....IDK why so many women do this!
I think you are right- I am going to hold off on having them visit until I can have a word with him. I have plans to meet him Christmas Weekend- so there isn't much I can do until then except perhaps have a little "Come to Jesus" with my darling sister about controlling the gossip.