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Nail salon experience...thoughts?

I got a mani on Wednesday morning. It came up that the nail tech lived in Choctaw, and that she had moved there for her church. She asked me if I attended church, and after I said yes she asked me where. After that, I was informed that her church believed those who worshipped on Sundays were misinformed--you're supposed to worship on Saturdays, and it says so in the Bible. She claimed her church could show me when Jesus was going to come back, that they no longer call him Jesus because it instructs us to call him by a new name (she would not tell me the name though) that gays/lesbians are going to hell unless they turn their life around. I was going to hell for worshipping on Sundays, and also for not recognizing Passover on the 14th of every month at twilight.

Now I did ask her some questions, but I found it odd that she was trying to get me to come to her church to find out the truth. She even offered to drive me if it was too far to Choctaw. What would you have done in this situation?
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Re: Nail salon experience...thoughts?

  • Umm... wow.

    I probably would've been polite, though I might have gently mentioned my own beliefs because I don't think I could sit there and listen to someone tell me I'm wrong and going to hell. That doesn't fly with me. I would never go back to her though, and depending on how adamant she was, I might have mentioned her comments to the owner/manager. She should know better than that, and I doubt she'll be employed for much longer if she keeps spouting off like that.

    That reminds me of the time a woman was waxing my eyebrows and casually mentioned how she was recently charged with a felony for bashing all her neighbor's house and car windows in with a shovel because they wouldn't pick up their dog's poop. Tongue Tied Way TMI when you've got hot wax on my face and tweezers half an inch from my eyeball.

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  • Definitely one of the strangest experiences I've ever heard....I probably would've asked questions at first, but once it became clear she was BSC, I probably would have changed the subject. One thing I don't understand is that she claims to have all this knowledge, yet she wouldn't answer your questions--that you would just have to come to her church to find out. People like her give Christians and other believers a bad name, IMO.
  • I'd have said, "Actually, I'm an atheist." *big smile*

    Then I'd never go back again, and I'd probably complain to the manager.  

  • I'd have told her (nicely) that I came to the salon to relax, not be prostheletized to, and that I was very happy and secure with my own belief system, so please stop bringing up her religion. If she didn't stop at that point, I'd complain to the manager, not leave her any tip, and find a new salon.

    I get that she *thinks* she's doing something nice for you, but there's a time and a place, and a way of doing so, and in my book, that's not it.

  • Uh yea...definitely not the time or the place. I find that sort of thing very rude. I have my very own strong beliefs and I know there are others who feel different. I am all about discussion and hearing different ideas, but once someone starts to pressure me with their ideas it makes me very uncomfortable. If it were me I would not be going back to that salon. I would have told her nicely that I have my own beliefs and I don't need a theological lesson, and then I would have asked to speak to the manager on way out or called the next day. It was way out of line IMO for that lady to pressure you.....awkward.....
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  • If I wasn't very far into the procedure, I would have left and called a manager to complain. Those people make me uncomfortable.
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  • Did you ever go back to get your one nail redone??  ;)
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    Did you ever go back to get your one nail redone??  ;)
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  • I would have asked her where exactly in the bible it mentions all of these "rules". And if she said "Well I don't have a bible handy" I would've whipped out my iPhone bible app lol. I'm sure if she could actually find scripture to back it up, it was probably one verse that was taken way out of context.

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    I'd have said, "Actually, I'm an atheist." *big smile*

    Then I'd never go back again, and I'd probably complain to the manager.  

    Yup, this.

  • imagecritti710:
    imagebluekid:

    I'd have said, "Actually, I'm an atheist." *big smile*

    Then I'd never go back again, and I'd probably complain to the manager.  

    Yup, this.

    See, I would have said this but my fear is that with that type of woman, it'd lead to her trying to "convert" me when all I would want her to do is shut it and do my nails :)

  • imageamanjay:
    imagecritti710:
    imagebluekid:

    I'd have said, "Actually, I'm an atheist." *big smile*

    Then I'd never go back again, and I'd probably complain to the manager.  

    Yup, this.

    See, I would have said this but my fear is that with that type of woman, it'd lead to her trying to "convert" me when all I would want her to do is shut it and do my nails :)

    I agree with Amanjay.  It'd be like feeding the troll.

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    imageamanjay:
    imagecritti710:
    imagebluekid:

    I'd have said, "Actually, I'm an atheist." *big smile*

    Then I'd never go back again, and I'd probably complain to the manager.  

    Yup, this.

    See, I would have said this but my fear is that with that type of woman, it'd lead to her trying to "convert" me when all I would want her to do is shut it and do my nails :)

    I agree with Amanjay.  It'd be like feeding the troll.

    I wouldn't say it so much because I think it would stop her from trying to convert me as just because it's the truth.  If she continued to proselytize to me, I would probably tell her that unless she'd like to talk about something else, I would be leaving.

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    imagecritti710:
    imageBoyMom21:
    imageamanjay:
    imagecritti710:
    imagebluekid:

    I'd have said, "Actually, I'm an atheist." *big smile*

    Then I'd never go back again, and I'd probably complain to the manager.  

    Yup, this.

    See, I would have said this but my fear is that with that type of woman, it'd lead to her trying to "convert" me when all I would want her to do is shut it and do my nails :)

    I agree with Amanjay.  It'd be like feeding the troll.

    I wouldn't say it so much because I think it would stop her from trying to convert me as just because it's the truth.  If she continued to proselytize to me, I would probably tell her that unless she'd like to talk about something else, I would be leaving.

    There you go---the follow-up would probably be necessary.

    I'm happily non-religious, not seeking, and, while interested in different religions in general, I'm not interested in someone trying to convert me to one. I'm not ashamed of those facts at all, but just like sex and politics, I prefer not to discuss any of the three at the nail salon.

    Sadly, in these situations, I think of really perfect lines AFTER I get in the car to go home. Sad I'm usually really quick on my feet in the classroom (my "turf") but when stuff like this comes out of the blue in weird situations, I usually just end up saying something like, "I couldn't disagree with you more" or "You can't really be serious, can you?" with what I'm sure is a WTF look on my face instead of the really awesome, perfectly timed reply that comes to me on the way home.

     

     

  • imageamanjay:
    imagecritti710:

    I wouldn't say it so much because I think it would stop her from trying to convert me as just because it's the truth.  If she continued to proselytize to me, I would probably tell her that unless she'd like to talk about something else, I would be leaving.

    There you go---the follow-up would probably be necessary.

    I'm happily non-religious, not seeking, and, while interested in different religions in general, I'm not interested in someone trying to convert me to one. I'm not ashamed of those facts at all, but just like sex and politics, I prefer not to discuss any of the three at the nail salon.

    I am the same way.  I am obviously not at all ashamed to be an atheist (my husband and I are among a few in our group who are completely "out"), but it's not something I spout at random people all of the time, unless they bring up the topic of religion, and even then I usually keep my thoughts to myself unless they say something that makes it obvious they assume I agree with them or are trying to convince me of their worldview.    (A woman I was volunteering with at the Food Bank a couple of weeks ago said something about thinking she'd be able to do something really difficult if it was God's will for her to do it.  I didn't tell her that I didn't believe in God or his will because it wasn't relevant to the conversation and would have served no purpose.  I'm not that militant. Stick out tongue)

  • Good gracious. I'm not sure what I would've done in that situation - I probably would've asked some questions at first to be nice but would have kindly told her that I have my own belief system and to please change the subject. If she didn't, I'd probably leave and complain to the manager. Awkward. People like that annoy me.
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  • imagecritti710:
    imageamanjay:
    imagecritti710:

    I wouldn't say it so much because I think it would stop her from trying to convert me as just because it's the truth.  If she continued to proselytize to me, I would probably tell her that unless she'd like to talk about something else, I would be leaving.

    There you go---the follow-up would probably be necessary.

    I'm happily non-religious, not seeking, and, while interested in different religions in general, I'm not interested in someone trying to convert me to one. I'm not ashamed of those facts at all, but just like sex and politics, I prefer not to discuss any of the three at the nail salon.

    I am the same way.  I am obviously not at all ashamed to be an atheist (my husband and I are among a few in our group who are completely "out"), but it's not something I spout at random people all of the time, unless they bring up the topic of religion, and even then I usually keep my thoughts to myself unless they say something that makes it obvious they assume I agree with them or are trying to convince me of their worldview.    (A woman I was volunteering with at the Food Bank a couple of weeks ago said something about thinking she'd be able to do something really difficult if it was God's will for her to do it.  I didn't tell her that I didn't believe in God or his will because it wasn't relevant to the conversation and would have served no purpose.  I'm not that militant. Stick out tongue)

     I knew we got along for a reason :) This is exactly my philosophy.

  • I'm naturally interested in religious topics, so I probably would have asked her questions, but the moment she made me feel 'pressured' I would end/change the conversation.
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