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vent: stressed out - thanksgiving (super long)
I'm not sure why I haven't posted this here yet, but was just thinking about it (again) so I thought I would share....
I had a total hormonal cry fest last week - which even at the time I knew was ridiculous. However, I'm still annoyed and getting anxiety over hosting Thanksgiving.
We are sharing our news at Thanksgiving, so I'm already anxious about that. My mom always comes down in the morning and stays for 1 or 2 nights. BIL asked P if it would be ok for him, his wife, and their almost 3 yr old daughter to stay over on thanksgiving. P told him the bed is given to my 64 yr old mom, but they can sleep in the basement on an air mattress - luckily now they are driving back (about 1.5 hr away). Instead they invited themselves to come down wednesday night.
Now I have to have the house cleaned by tomorrow afternoon (not Thursday morning)... I also will need to wash the sheets and re-clean the guest bedroom and guest bath before my mom arrives. Now I am annoyed bc I'm sure I'll have to make breakfast (aka, P will "take care of it" while offering to make eggs, while I'm in the middle of trying to stuff an effing turkey) and will just be in my way - I hate not having my space in the kitchen. bratty sorry.
I told P I wanted them out of the house on thursday late morning/early afternoon so I could cook, clean, set the tables, change over the guest room etc (all while feeling like pregnany m/s ass).... oh and they are bringing their dog. Thing is, I dont think our neice is really old enough to sit through a movie at the theater (what we used to go do as kids to get out of my mom's hair) and everything else is probably closed...
Neice is almost 3 and in that "acting out" stage where she does stuff for attn. While at my ILs a few wks ago they bought her a Mr. Potato Head. She spent 5 straight minutes throwing the pieces all over the living room... Like the entire potato head into the air crashing onto the floor. Our LCD TV is only like 20" off the ground bc our entertainment stand is low. Sorry, shallow to be concerned about this... but I'm just trying to be prepared. We aren't childproofed whatsoever. I'm going to target tonight to buy her some toys and maybe a video or two that... and I know her parents will watch her, but I know she just likes to touch and grab everything. (I already bought her her own princess plates, sippy cup, and silverware, bc Ive also witness her stabbing my ILs china with a knife....)
Sorry, not sure what I'm asking for here other than to vent. I guess please tell me it won't be a big deal and just to focus on the food??... I'm just afraid I'll get irritated and mood swing in front of them.... since I'm easily frustrated these days....
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
Re: vent: stressed out - thanksgiving (super long)
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
I can definitely understand your frustration. I would probably be frustrated too in that situation. From some of the things you've said lately, I think our personalities are very similar and I know for me, things usually end up way better than I make them out to be in my head. I'm sure it's even worse because you're probably more emotional than usual (I really hope that doesn't come off as negative or offensive- I don't mean it to).
The only advice I can give is that it probably won't be that bad. Just focus on the fact that you get to share your exciting news with your family!
LOL raynes!... I know I'm getting worked up over nothing, I guess I just already feel like there is so much to do in just hosting the dinner, that now that I have to have houseguests the night before is just irritating me.
I really wish we could have told them no, but unless we want to be pricks we can't. Just seems like there is soo much to do/worry about...
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
Thanks Mrs.Sikes... and I bet we do have similar personalities... does "OCD/Control Freak" fit?? haha... and yes, I definitely am more on edge/easily frustrated than usual. (and no offense taken)...
I actually feel a bit better now that I wrote it out. I know we'll get everything done and get through it, I just feel like my to-do list is still never ending..
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
take it one thing at a time. do what you can, but don't exhaust yourself. if things go "off," smile and laugh it off.
after all, it is just a couple of days, and you're going to be sharing some fantastic news that will trump any/everything else! in all honesty, they aren't going to remember specifics, just that this was the day you told them of your little nugget!
Why, yes, I may have used those words to describe myself every now and then.
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
Ringy - I have a "early dismissal" tomorrow at work, so I should be back around 2:30 and they should be arriving btwn 5-530. Pete senses my frustration and is really helping out tonight. I (re) made (another) to-do list, so slowly getting through it... you know after I stop nesting, lol.
Sarah - nugget.
Thanks everyone else.. for the good advice, positive outlooks, and mostly for actually reading that freakin long post!
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
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maybe this is the wrong thing to say, but I totally feel anxiety coming on just reading that! but like everyone else said, it will all work out! it's only for a few days and then you can be stress free in your empty house with P & the pups.
also, I may or may not be an advocate of smacking other peoples' children. just sayin.
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