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Trouble with arousal and pain with sex
Ever since my husband and I have started having sex almost 2 years ago, I've had trouble even getting aroused and wanting to have sex at all and when we do, it's very painful for him to enter. I've been told by my gynecologist that my hymen was never torn (I think that's what it's called- I was never given the sex talk or learned anything about sex) and that I hold all my tension/stress there so it's very tight. I've had physical therapy to help with this but because of insurance we had to stop and it didn't really help anyway. I also have poylycystic ovarian syndrome and we've also changed birth controls to natural forms rather then hormonal since my gynecologist said they might be prohibiting me from getting aroused.It helped a little but after I stopped hormonal for a few months, it died down to nothing. Has anyone dealt with these issues? I would like to email with someone if anyone has any ideas or has dealt with this in a helpful way.
Thanks
Re: Trouble with arousal and pain with sex
For you ladies that are struggling and got no sex ed and no education regarding your anatomy or his, I strongly suggest the book Our Bodies Ourselves and Woman's Body: an Owner's Manual -- and Man's Body: an Owner's Manual.
Taking Charge of Your Fertility is another good one to read.
A complete physical checkup for you is suggested -- maybe you're having hormonal problems, vaginisimus, an intact hymen or other issues that will interfere with sex and penetration.
I also suggest masturbation. If you never have, start now -- you're sure to find out what makes you feel good.
If you have polycystic ovarian syndrome, isn't a visit to an endocrinologist in order also?
Hi there! I was bored and reading some posts on other boards (I usually post on H&F) and yours hit home...I was the same way with the whole not much sex drive and hurting when we had sex...
so Ok so for being married over a yr we really don't have much sex but this is what I found some what helpful for me.
I found that when he goes down on me (sorry for TMI) and he gets me to O I am MUCH more relaxed and so then we can actually have sex...