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B-day Photos
Hello,
I just thought I would get a married guy's opinion on something. My hubby's birthday is coming up and I was thinking of getting some boudior photos taken. Not nude, just some sexy pics of me in some lingerie. Problem is, I don't know if he would be offended that someone else was there to take the pics. It would be totally professional, I'm just unsure of his reaction. How would you guys react to this?
Re: B-day Photos
Well I'm not a guy..and there aren't many around here to get opinions from...so here you go.
Are you worried about your husband being jealous about a female photographer? That seems like the obvious solution; I'd be more comfortable with a female photographer anyway.
I just asked DH about this, and here is his response...
I wouldn't really care as long as the guy shooting the pics is a professional, and as long as its not all nude. Truthfully, as long as the photographer is a professional, I wouldn't really even mind topless. My biggest worry would be that someone (like your mom or BF) knows where you would be, and at what times. I would realy prefer if one of your friends were to go with you, just so things are cool.
I agree with him. Unless your signifigant other is super jealous, I wouldn't worry about it, especially if its just lingerie. Hope this helps!
It depends on if your spouse is open or 'conservative'. If you consider him conservative, then he may prefer a female photographer. If he's open like my husband, he'd probably be okay with a male photographer. My husband is very open minded and he has told me that he'd love me to get this done for him after his best friend's wife got it done. She had a male photographer and her husband was thrilled about the pictures, even though she was NUDE. She's also very open so she showed them to me. They were beautiful. My husband heard all about it and I asked him what he thought of her being naked and having a male photographer. He said, "he's a professional, there's nothing wrong with that!"
You are going to all that trouble and expense to perk up your husband's interest?
Just watch for the disappointed look on DH's face as he flips through the photos. And they run out just at the time things are getting really interesting.May as well just slap him in the face too.
Do some in the buff. Do you think your bits are something super special and unlike anything anybody else has?
I think that's unfair to say, and kind of rude actually. Most men would appreciate tasteful photos done like this, I know my DH would probably love it. You could even have a special romantic night planned, because those pics are sure to get him in the mood! I think he would appreciate it
Exactly this, Bronze. My DH and several other men I've known have stated on several occasions that a woman barely dressed is far sexier than a woman completely nude.
I actually had something similar done a couple of years ago and gave them to DH (then just BF) as an anniversary present. The fact that a male photographer had taken the photos never even crossed his mind. He thoroughly enjoyed the pictures, and he still has them, as far as I know, though I consider that a private thing for him and don't ask him about them. They are for his personal use. ^_-
Quote" Exactly this, Bronze. My DH and several other men I've known have stated on several occasions that a woman barely dressed is far sexier than a woman completely nude." Unquote
DH told the story about as a kid he was looking at a buddies old playboy magazine. He said the pictures were getting better and better, then it was the end of the book and just boobies were seen.
DH said he was rather disappointed to get led up that close to all the good stuff and not see everything.
From what I've been able to discern from men and women.What is a women's idea of romance and foreplay is not a man's idea of romance and foreplay.And vice versa.
What does he like?
Does he like cheesecake? retro? Something similar to a FHM photo shoot?
I have always admired the old school Playboy style photo shoots -- the ones from the Sixties where the centerfolds were more or less wholesome girl next door types, and not the Playmate style you see today.
You do not have to do full nude shots.
As a newly married guy whose wife did this I can say that I really enjoyed it.
I was a little uncomfortable about a photographer (and my wife was a little shy) but one of her bridesmaids took the photos and that was fine. Maybe you know a girl who can help you out. Anyway I would suggest finding a theme or two to work with and somewhere other than your normal bedroom. Find out what he likes, does he have a chearleader fantasy or something?
Also I am also of the opinion that you should not go nude or even topless. It's like a present at christmas. Tearing off the wrapping is half the fun! Send it to him the day before or the morning of the wedding. Gauranteed no cold feet!
I think this is a great idea for brides to be. Good Luck!
You're an idiot. I did a boudoir shoot for my DH for our first anniversary and he LOVED it. In fact he looks at them quite often. As for my "bits" being super special, no I didn't do any in the buff because that's not what I wanted. I wanted tasteful and classy. That's what I was comfortable with. Every woman is allowed to do what she is comfortable with doing.
You are going to all that trouble and expense to perk up your husband's interest?
Just watch for the disappointed look on DH's face as he flips through the photos. And they run out just at the time things are getting really interesting.May as well just slap him in the face too."
Who do you think you are exactly?
If your'e comfortable, how about asking one of your friends to take the pictures for you? I mean...if you were going to let a complete stranger do it, why not one of your closest friends (female friends of course, LOL). I doubt he'd get upset about that.
AND if I may make a suggestion, since it's for his birthday I saw a GREAT picture where this chick was straddling a birthday cake (thong on but hidden) with her hair hiding her breasts. If your hairs not long enough or if you don't want to do that you could just wear a bikini or bra top and you could have an icing covered spatula in your hand or something like that.
Ask him how he feels about a male OBGYN. If the photographer is a professional, then they're used to doing those types of shoots. If you are booking a more high-end shoot, there will probably be a make up artist there as well.
BTW, I'm a male photographer who has shot nudes and lingerie images and the wife does not have a problem with it.
I trust my wife enough that if she had this done it wouldn't matter if the photographer was male or female, as long as they were a professional. In fact I probably wouldn't even think about it. From what I have seen in our area though, most of the photographers who this kind of stuff are female.
I also agree that lingerie is sexier than fully nude. And not only that, less embarassing should someone else accidentally see them, i.e. parents, children, visiting guests.