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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Sister Eloping
My younger sister is eloping in a few weeks. She is just going to have my dad and another witness there. Both her and her husband to be are in the military and need to marry sooner than later in ordere to be stationed together. She will be having a large wedding in about a year and a half. I would like to get her/them something nice and meaningful for their small ceremony. Any suggestions?
"A thousand mile journey begins with one step"
Re: Sister Eloping
Why is the term eloping used? The term always meant that you took off and got married suddenly w/o notice. What they are having is a small private ceremony.
And here we go again..."large wedding in a year and a half..." They've already had their wedding. I can't stand these people who breach etiquette in to get their pomp and circumstance and money and gifts.
This is common in the military community. Unfortunately, the military does not respect engaged or dating relationships (barely respects married relationships) when doling out assignments. If your next job was reliant on whether or not you are married *right now,* you too might adjust your wedding plans in order to be co-located with your spouse. When one or both spouse is in the military, it requires a lifetime of sacrifice; please don't judge these people for trying to make their wedding into what they want, despite the constraints of the military.
Agreed with the second post! I had to be on H's page two before he PCSd so we had a small courthouse ceremony and got all the legal stuff done. We are planning a big party wedding sometime next summer, but it's not for the presents and money. We don't even know what to ask for as far as gifts go because we feel we have everything we need (except H always wants computer and gaming parts, but that's another story entirely lol.) Many military people do something small to make it legal, and have the celebration of two lives coming together another day. Please don't judge so harshly.
I understand all this. I have a problem with people who call their large gathering that they have later their wedding. They are already married. Call it a vow renewal, or a party, but don't call it a wedding because it isn't.
Technically, what they are doing is getting married. A wedding, which is simply the celebration of marriage (which many people incorrectly use interchangeably with marriage) is what they are planning on doing later.
If they were doing this for gifts, it might have been tacky, but as it is, maybe you should just be happy for them or simply butt out.
By the way, I think that the ornament is an excellent gift. Maybe throw in a gift card to a large store that can cover expenses for anything the military doesn't. : )
(Edited for typo.)