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How do I ...
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DH has been home for about 3 months from training and will be leaving again in January for more before deployment, and since he has been home we've gotten back into our 'normal' life, grocery shopping (which we love to do together) date nights, game nights with friends, and a sex life but, the sex life, its not as romantic / sensual as it used to be before he left. Dont get me wrong, the sex is great, but I am missing the romantic foreplay and passion that used to occur before sex, and now, I'm not sure how to get it back...
Any of you been through a similar situation, where the sex is still there but the romance isnt? How did you deal with it, what do you suggest?
DH has been home for about 3 months from training and will be leaving again in January for more before deployment, and since he has been home we've gotten back into our 'normal' life, grocery shopping (which we love to do together) date nights, game nights with friends, and a sex life but, the sex life, its not as romantic / sensual as it used to be before he left. Dont get me wrong, the sex is great, but I am missing the romantic foreplay and passion that used to occur before sex, and now, I'm not sure how to get it back...
Any of you been through a similar situation, where the sex is still there but the romance isnt? How did you deal with it, what do you suggest?
Re: How do I ...
I think this is very difficult. You did not say where he was deployed to, or to do what. However, if he serves at teh 'sharp edge' then he had 6 months of life and death on a daily basis with much of the time being a live target. This takes a massive toll on any mans inner feelings. He probably had to get tough and purposely unfeeling very quickly. Now that he is home in safetly with you it's probably beyond his ability to turn it back on.
You may be able to gently encourage him to open up and let his sensual mind be free, but don't be surprised if it also opens up other emotions that also will have to be fixed......
.........Remember that, on the battlefield EVERY soldier is a casualty.