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I am brand new to this site and need help
I have no one to talk to about this and am feeling very discouraged and frustrated. When I was young I never had problems with pain during sex. As I got a little older I started getting some burning and swelling after sex but nothing horrible just a little discomfort that didn't last long. Once I conceived my first child this pain started getting worse but I still had drive because it felt good during. After having the baby (via c-section this has nothing to do with vaginal birth) It got even worse. When we were TTC it was difficult because we had to do it so frequently and now that I am pregnant again the pain is so bad that I think we are just done. We had sex last night and all day today it has hurt to walk or sit. My inner labia is very pronounce and I think this may be part of the problem because sometimes it is uncomfortable even without sex. But the swelling and burning after sex it not just on that labia it is all over in that area.
Re: I am brand new to this site and need help
Have you brought it up to your midwife? A good midwife should be able to help you with this or at the very least refer you to someone who can.
Find yourself a gynecologist, not a general practitioner. Do you have annual Pap smears and exams? Did you bring it up then?
I am really sorry that you are going through this, but you absolutely need to see an ob/gyn as soon as possible. I can understand why in the past you wouldn't have a gyn if you PCP has been doing your paps, but you really need to see an ob for this pregnancy in general- not just for your current pain issue.
I'm surprised that you didn't follow-up with the ob who did your c-section. I don't mean to come across the wrong way, but very few ob's are willing to do a vbac, I think it is a bad idea to have a midwife for this (if you are planning to try to deliver vaginally). Or if you are planning another c-section wouldn't you like to get to know the doctor first?
You can probably start with your PCP or your midwife if you feel more comfortable discussing this with them, but you'll probably end up in an ob/gyn office at some point because they have more experience with this type of issue. Best of luck!