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This year Thanksgiving was more chaotic than I ever remember.. my brother and soon-to-be SIL were hosting dinner for her family at their house, we were having dinner at MIL's house and then going to my aunt's house for dessert. We had no intention of going to my brother's house but future SIL kept calling and insisting that we come at least between 1 and 2 since we had to be at MIL's at 3. So we make arrangements and go there.. they gather all the family for a prayer (and call SIL's sister in Florida) and then they tell us that she is 2 months pregnant! First baby in our family.. My mom burst into tears my dad teared up too.. It was sweet, I'm glad I was there.
The wedding was going to be in June but since she is due in July they are moving the wedding to NEXT MONTH! They are thinking December 23, which is a Thursday because they are hoping most of our family will be in town for the holidays already. She was talking about a wedding shower last night.. I was sorta trying to discourage it... then I felt badly about doing that, but seriously.. it would be in two weeks! So two weeks wedding shower, two weeks wedding and then Christmas! That's a heck of a lot of money! I'll obviously still go.. but others may not be inclined to spend a bunch of money on them!
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Wow! That is big news! Congratulations, Auntie!
I'm with you on the bridal shower-- there's just not enough time, and I hope that she'd understand that (you wouldn't be in charge of it, would you?). I mean, you'd have to send e-vites or invite everyone by phone and get instantaneous responses. She's going to have her hands full pulling together a quickie wedding, anyway. She can have a really great baby shower to make up for it.
I thought the same thing!! But she was also on the phone with her friend while I was there last night talking about it and she said she thinks she should have a shower and that my family (aunts and mom) would probably want her to have a shower.. but I just think there is such a time crunch! I said she can still go and register and get things for the wedding... but a shower seems like too much!
YAY what exciting news!!! Congrats!!!
What about an after the wedding shower since its so fast and so close to the holidays, something in January might be easier for everyone involved.
This is what I was thinking, maybe see if she would like a house warming shower instead since there isn't much time until the wedding. Congrats on being an aunt!
Congrats on becoming an aunt!
Hmmm...well, whether or not soon to be SIL gets a bridal shower is not really up to her - that's up to whomever decides to throw her one (if anyone, esp given the very short notice now). So really she shouldn't be saying "I really think I should have a bridal shower." She might think that but whether it actually happens now given the new timeframe (and holiday expenses for everyone else) is another story. Someone can host a very nice baby shower for her later this spring - that sounds like a better idea to me. If it's the first baby for her and int he family in general, she's going to need a lot of baby supplies.
I considered posting about this earlier today but didn't because I thought I might come off biitchy, but THIS is exactly what I was thinking.
Really, you don't get to choose to have a bridal shower. It is is something that is thrown FOR you. Honestly, I find the whole thing totally mortifying and they just seem tacky, like people are asking to be given gifts for no good reason. They will be getting wedding gifts like two weeks later! And if they really need stuff, and if people want to give them stuff, Christmas is a good enough excuse. (Keep in mind, I had THREE freaking bridal showers, and got a TON of stuff, which was insane...Dave and I owned our own home already, we had lived together for almost four years...I did NOT need one).
I just know that December is an INSANE month with all the holiday parties and whatnot as it is. It is one thing to have a small, intimate, family wedding, but it is another thing entirely to expect TWO parties within 3 weeks of Christmas.
I just cringe for these situations. I'm not saying that your SIL is tacky, not at all! I really think that a lot of brides expect that they should be given a shower because it is all part and parcel of the pretty princess day. But you should never expect people to give you gifts or throw you parties for ANY reason, wedding included.