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kelly- MIL
hey saw your post below about your MIL wanting to talk to your HH about something.
I thought you could relate and would find this comical. So back in Sept it was HH's birthday. We were supposed to go to dinner with his mom because she insisted and set it up like a month in advance. 2 hours before we are supposed to go she cancels. Whatever, she does it ALL THE TIME. But I was having birthday cake for him that night at our house, which everyone(my family and his) knew about.
Cake time rolls around and only my family shows up. So I guess this finally put things into perspective for my HH. He told his mom he was upset that she couldn't even show up and she couldn't give an excuse as to why, so he isn't speaking to her.
Thanksgiving (which she spends holed up in her room and doesn't come out because she is an alcoholic and we think bi-polar) she calls my HH I guess to complain to him that he never calls and he re-iterates why, NOW that crazy b*tch is trying to say she knew nothing about the cake. She has now convinced herself to believe her lies that I never told her about it. Meanwhile I had texts with her and an actual phone call with her about it. HH just said you know thats not true and hung up.
And i was civil on thanksgiving i sent her a msg saying happy thanksgiving and never got a msg back. I am civil to her but I dont go out of my way to please her anymore. Its not worth it,
I know you have lots of problems with your MIL, so just know you aren't alone. We can commiserate (spelling) here together 
Re: kelly- MIL
I can totally relate!! So sorry you have such a peach of a MIL, though. Ugh. I think we're both really lucky to have HH's who have realized what their mothers are actually like, though; my BIL still thinks his mommy is a saint and totally believes all of her insanity. His poor wife.
So... guess what the voicemails were about?! She left one for each of us. On mine, MIL went on and on about how sweet it was of me to go out of my way to make sure that she was "included" in the meal, because she has celiac disease and has to eat a totally gluten-free diet. I spent literally two months researching recipes and doing shopping for this meal so that she could eat it, and she acknowledged that. Then she got this really stilted, awkward tone in her voice and asked me to call her back because she needed to "talk to me about something."
Matt called her back and she went OFF on him because we did not set aside a special, dedicated time during the meal to discuss her supposed health issues and pray for her because she's going in for a (totally unnecessary) blood test on Tuesday.
She was also screaming at him because HH and BIL had been talking about how they are saddled with a ridiculous amount of student loans for going to expensive private colleges and not graduating in four years. They'd said they wished they could do it over again and go to state schools. She took this as a personal attack on her. Why, I have no idea, because nobody even insinuated that the decision had anything to do with her (she keeps insisting that it would have been just as expensive for Matt to commute from home and go to a community college as it was for him to go to a private, out-of-state university, because he would have needed a car).
Anyway, she hung up on him again, and the good part is that Matt has asked me to not answer any of her phone calls or return any of her messages! Ever again! I don't, anyway, but it's nice to not have to debate about it. He doesn't want me to get sucked into this more than is necessary. She's never wanted to "talk" to me about something that upset her before, and he's not going to let her start. I love him. Too bad I hate her.
Same here! I don't know how you two do it, I'm so glad I get along with my MIL.
Right? Kevin's family is rather quiet and non-confrontational so there's no reason to really not get along with my MIL. It's my BIL and his wife that are a little weird.
They had planned a birthday party for Kevin's nephew and hand delivered our invitation, while we were home, but didn't knock. They just wedged it in the door and left. We noticed it when we were leaving the house to get dinner. Then BIL called 2 days before the party to cancel (weather was bad and it was supposed to be outside). BIL said they might make plans for something else and let us know. Kevin said ok.
Fast forward to the following Tuesday (party was supposed to be Sunday) Kevin was talking to his dad on the phone and he mentioned nephew's birthday party. Kevin says "huh" and FIL proceeds to tell him how they still had a party at the house on Sunday. MIL, FIL and SIL were invited but we were not.... and we literally live 5 minutes down the road. It would be fine if it had just been grandparents and they told us that. "They were trying to keep it small" but invited friends and chose to not tell us anything about it.
SO annoying. But get along with my MIL great!
that is MAJORLY F'ed up in my opinion! that is so odd!
How bizarre. Where on earth do these people come from, and how are they related to such wonderful men? Matt would definitely be an argument for the "nature" side of the nature vs. nurture debate except that the gene pool from which he sprang is also screwy!