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Gifts for the IL's - Venting
I hate buying xmas gifts for the IL's. We don't like each other and they always buy me stuff I do not like. Heck I might do the same thing to them and not know it. Just wish we would not exchange gifts at all. I am allergic to silver jewelry and they know it...what do I get about every year or so...silver jewelry.
SIL is the biggest "b" of all. She will get DH a gift and me nothing at all. Why do I even bother shopping for her. Or if I do get something it is six months late - no joke.
Oh, then FIL always picks out an expensive item he wants for xmas! I can't fricken stand it. DH then feels guilty for not buying it for him since they get us a decent gift card. I just went back to work after being unemployed for three months. The last thing I want to do is spend money on ungrateful people.
Just venting. 
Re: Gifts for the IL's - Venting
Wow! 12 neices and nephews! I only have two so I am lucky there.
My one SIL is a CEO. They have everything you can imagine. It is even hard to buy for my neices.
Yes - 12 and thats only my DH's side. I really only have one nephew I buy for - my brother has 4 kids, but the only time I see them is at Christmas and the only reason they come over is for gifts. This year I am not wasting my $$. Come see me all year long and not just for Christmas.
The older kids on my DH's side get cash and the younger kids get a little gift. I always start early as not to be bogged down with getting the gifts all at once.
With the CEO SIL kids - you could always just do gift cards?
When our gift giving started getting silly (no one liking the gifts and were giving them because we felt we needed to) we start to make donations in people's honor. One of my favorite charities to give gifts from is Heifer International. Who wouldn't want a flock of chicks, a water buffalo or a trio of rabbits. They have a great range of prices and then at least your know your gift is doing some good.
Here's the website.
Or, I might just do a "family" gift. Maybe do one of those Harry and David gift food towers--or make your own. Maybe do some wine and cheese for the adults, different kinds of nuts and/or fruits for both generations and then sweets for the kids/"treats" for the adults. Put in tins/boxes and call it a day.
Thankfully I don't exchange gifts with too many in my family that I don't really "know"--probably only my cousin and his family of 3 kids, and they usually get food of some sort. That way I know that somewhere or another it'll get used--even if it's just as a re-gift for someone else that year. I do prefer to make sure that the contents are good vs.making the prettiest presentation.
I think this is a GREAT idea!!! That's what I would do. Send them some goodies and call it a day!