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Larissa!!!! I'm so stinkin excited for you!!!!
Whoooo hooooooo!
This is super awesome, I haven't been this thrilled for someone in a LONG time.
Re: Larissa!!!! I'm so stinkin excited for you!!!!
Me too! Me too!!!!
Open the champagne!
Yes, and drink lots for me, to you!
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This! Fantastic news! Congrats!
YAY LARISSA!!
So excited for you!!!!
Larissa, that is awesome! I'm so very happy for you!!!!
Amelia is going to be a big sister!
Thanks, guys! (and those of you who posted in the other thread)
I've been mostly quiet about it because I don't want to sit here constantly saying I hate my life and am terrified and don't want a solo practice and just want a job.
But I was thinking all that. I'd never had more than 2 weeks without a job or school before, since I was 14 years old (that's 1984, people). I'd never collected unemployment before, and I hated it. And a couple months ago, it ran out entirely.
If you're keeping score, that means one full-time income, plus whatever I could pull in from face painting and my few clients. The soap business right now is paying for itself, we've been reinvesting those funds to grow the product line & inventory.
Scary stuff that had me stressed and bitchy, angry, and scared. And with zero sex drive.
Now I'm in the best mood EVER. I wish it was already 9 a.m. tomorrow so I could call the guy and tell him yes. He wouldn't actually take my yes this afternoon because he knew I was looking for more money and wanted me to talk to Eric about it first. That's fair. He's been married a long time and knows it's not just about me anymore.
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I posted in the other thread because I read down to up but I digress.
I was actually thinking to myself.... If I had my own plane (no one said I was realistic), I would fly myself up there to celebrate with you. Then that got me thinking how I would be flying all over to see everyone to celebrate various things we all do.
Anyway, congrats again - you deserve it. I completely relate about the money thing. We ran out of unemployment awhile ago and I've been very stressed being the "breadwinner" and going to grad school and everything else I do (scentsy). It's been hard not to be resentful to DH but I know it's not his fault either.
Now, go celebrate with Eric *wink wink* !!!
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Ugh, wish I could! I'm "out of commission" this week.
But yeah, I get your issue with H, totally. I've been stressed and frustrated, feeling like our money isn't ours, it's his, and I shouldn't be spending on anything I want or need. And though I do open my mouth when I feel like E spends on stupid things now & then with money we should be saving, I feel like it's his money and he has the upper hand in making decisions since I've been such a loser... this is all, mind you, coming from ME internally, NOT from Eric. He's been totally supportive.
Meanwhile, though, he's been really scared too, and frustrated that I've been so stagnant. And being depressed, I've had a hard time really pushing my "solo practice" to succeed, and he sees that and gets even more frustrated. Now that I've got a place to be, I'll push for clients because I feel more secure AND can make more money from it.
Ah, the stuff I've wanted to do... like hire a cleaning lady once a month. Like get a few new sweaters. Like be able to buy cool stuff for my nephews. I can do this stuff now! Or... I will be able to come January, anyway, once we're caught up and my paychecks are actually being handed to me.
I'm totally setting up a massage appt for this week. I still have one gift cert left from my birthday.
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It's hard! I'm on the opposite side of that and can relate to Eric because DH will go to the gym in the morning to train some people, come home for a few hours and go back. This infuriates me because I think he could be getting more clients or selling Herbalife instead of watching sports.
In his defense - I handed the responsibility of planning and cooking dinner over to him because let's face it - I'm not superwoman. He has done well with that and it's been a huge relief to me.
DH's store is scheduled to open Dec.6 and I think once paychecks come in from that, I'll feel better. I'm a teacher, I don't make that much. Scentsy has been a godsend!
I just want to quit my job and have babies, lol!
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Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
That's just it, I can see both sides. And Eric's frustration has made me beat myself up even more over it all. It's hard when I've been self-sufficient for so many years and now have had to live off someone who isn't even my parent. It's not who I am, and it's really gotten to me. And to him, because I can tell you right now, I have NOT been the same person he proposed to... which isn't at all fair.
And you want to quit... so does he!
He's been working at a job he despises because he can't afford to leave. He had a phone interview today for a new place, and they're doing another one tomorrow morning, so fingers crossed for that. But his real dream is the brewing, so I need to make real money so he can take the risk. The "light at the end of the tunnel" is such a trite metaphor, but it really does feel like that.
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I could write those same words. I see both sides and both sides suck. The metaphor is trite but true. I just have to keep doing what I'm doing and not let things stress me out. I've had to learn that it's ok if I mess up something on my calendar or just take time for myself.
You learn. You love. It's life
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Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
... and hopefully when your H's store opens (really soon!), that paycheck will start putting things in your life back where they're supposed to be.
I know I sound like a big baby to say it, but it wasn't supposed to be this hard. We're supposed to progress as we get older, and we were supposed to get maried and live better lives, not harder, scarier ones. My parents worked their asses off so I wouldn't have to be in this position. WTF happened?
Ah, screw it. It's on the upswing now. That light is there, and hopefully the tunnel is short.
And then I can go get a Mustang again. ;-)
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I agree! As far as my job prospects go, I feel like I'm starting from scratch again. Like, I just finished my internship, so now a job that pays $20K is looking really good. Except, I didn't just finish my internship. And now I have a family to support. Not having a job sucks. Well, if we were able to live off Rodgers' income alone, it wouldn't suck...
Anyway, you getting this job gives me some hope. Maybe it's my turn next.