how many times have u said no to ur lover

sideobserver · November 2010

what excuse do u use?

Have u tried saying yes?

I never say no even if I am famished and u know those chemicals ur body releases r so relaxing.

But the best is the cuddling afterward ur bodys touching so sensual.

Lil'BlackDress · November 2010

This is a really odd post.

Do you assume that women normally would make up excuses so that they don't need to have sex? Do you assume that most women would rather say no? Where is this question coming from?

Lilou902 · November 2010

Of course I have said no...if I don't feel well or am not in the mood.

amaretto*sour · November 2010

Um, of course I've turned down sex. If I'm sick or just not in the mood, then no means no.

I couldn't imagine forcing sex when I'm not in the mood for it...I'd probably be irritated even afterward.

riderpunk · November 2010

amaretto*sour:
Um, of course I've turned down sex. If I'm sick or just not in the mood, then no means no.
I couldn't imagine forcing sex when I'm not in the mood for it...I'd probably be irritated even afterward.

Ditto and same for DH. If someone doesn't want to, neither one of us would feel bad saying no.

ki10 · November 2010

Quite a lot, most of which we're happy with because he'll ask even when he should be asleep, etc, and some of which is due to depression and we're fixing. But I would NEVER use an excuse. If I'm not up for it, my SO is going to hear that. I have tried saying yes when not in the mood, with mixed results. The post-coital relaxation is a big improvement on my overall mood, but not worth mediocre sex. If you're gonna go, go all out.

sideobserver · November 2010

thanks for ur response

all of u defended no

but have u considered yes even if didn't feel in the mood. Lots of women have tried it and were amazed at how it boosted their mood Plus ur hubby

will appreciate u for being acommodating and wanting to do for him.

of course when u r sick u r excused.

Now in defense of men ok. Don't u love them and give them a gift they want from u that they can't get from no one else cuz u r the one they gave up other women for? would u like it he starts looking for someone who says yes.

to much no cruches a mans fragile ego but he won't say anything,then gives up,thinks why am I begging so when the time comes u r in the mood his plumbing doesn't work. U see that little word"no" is very powerful.

TarponMonoxide · November 2010

sideobserver:

thanks for ur response

all of u defended no

but have u considered yes even if didn't feel in the mood. Lots of women have tried it and were amazed at how it boosted their mood Plus ur hubby

will appreciate u for being acommodating and wanting to do for him.

of course when u r sick u r excused.

Now in defense of men ok. Don't u love them and give them a gift they want from u that they can't get from no one else cuz u r the one they gave up other women for? would u like it he starts looking for someone who says yes.

to much no cruches a mans fragile ego but he won't say anything,then gives up,thinks why am I begging so when the time comes u r in the mood his plumbing doesn't work. U see that little word"no" is very powerful.

I wish u would stop w the princespeak. U just dont know how annoying u are being.

Dude, if you think every guy has that weak of an ego that he'll go seeking sex elsewhere because he's being turned down for sex by his SO/spouse, wow, you're living in the wrong century.

mysticl · November 2010

I checked his bio. He claims to be a 60 year old man. Based on what I read I plan on not responding to any of his posts.

pondering_gal · November 2010

sideobserver:

thanks for ur response

all of u defended no

but have u considered yes even if didn't feel in the mood. Lots of women have tried it and were amazed at how it boosted their mood Plus ur hubby

will appreciate u for being acommodating and wanting to do for him.

of course when u r sick u r excused.

Now in defense of men ok. Don't u love them and give them a gift they want from u that they can't get from no one else cuz u r the one they gave up other women for? would u like it he starts looking for someone who says yes.

to much no cruches a mans fragile ego but he won't say anything,then gives up,thinks why am I begging so when the time comes u r in the mood his plumbing doesn't work. U see that little word"no" is very powerful.

On a board that is about sex and whatnot, THIS is by far the oddest post I have ever seen.

First off, thank you SO much for excusing us when we're sick. That is so very kind of you.

Secondly, a husband doesn't "give up other women" for his wife - he chooses to spend the rest of their life with her...they aren't "giving up" anything. And guess what? If we say no and they go find it somewhere else, he's going to be a very lonely man in the end.

And lastly, you have to beg for it because no woman is turned on by your mindset. It's no wonder you aren't getting laid.