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3rd day of no naps
I think I'm going to snap. Son #1 has decided he's too cool for naps and now he's climbing out of his crib during nap time. I've tried waking him up earlier, going on long walks with him in the morning, having a dance party usa.... nothing. He thinks it's hilarious to stay awake.
I know he's just a kid, but I'm really losing it over here. I'm not kidding, I screamed into a pillow so hard/loud that I saw purple spots. I don't know how I'm going to handle 2. I just don't. The thought of two of them makes me laugh like a lunatic. Up all night with her... up all day with him. Fvcking awesome. Bring it on. I feel like the biggest failure ever and it hasn't even started yet.
Anyway.
Just thought you should know I'm cracked.
Brooooooooken.
Re: 3rd day of no naps
Oh Hezz. You are not a failure!
I only have one, no second one on the way, and I lost my marbles a couple of weeks ago. The kid acted like I was trying to put him into a vat of acid, when in fact it was only his bath. I had scratches all over my neck and face as if I had been wrangling a wild cat; I put him into "time out" (his crib) no less than 3 times while he was wet and naked. See rage post below to find out how well I dealt with it (stomped off to my bedroom and slammed the door as if I was a 12 year old girl).
I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, you are not a failure, and you are a great mom, now, and with two.
I know nothing anybody says is going to make you feel less stressed, but you're totally not a failure as a mom. Not that I've ever seen you parent, but I have seen you put eyeliner on a guy, and put a liter of soda in your hair, and if you're good at those things, parenting has got to be a snap.
You'll be fine with 2, because when #2 is an outside baby, you'll start to feel more like yourself, and she'll be unconscious a lot and it will all work itself out. I know you have already done the whole newborn thing before and I haven't, but trust me, I'm an expert.
And your hair looks pretty today.
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Can you put up a baby gate or two to lock him in his room so he can't get out?
I'm sorry you're such a failure at being a mom. Maybe you'll get it right with the second one. It's too late to fix the first one. Obviously.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Oh Hezz. This was me a couple months ago. Don't feel bad, he's just at that age. I felt like I was going to lose my damn mind. There's a chapter in the Ferber book about limit testing and it was like they wrote it about Will.
Setting up the baby gates and not responding to his demands or laughter or whatever helped so much. We put up one gate, go in his room, read 3 stories, sing 3 songs, and tell a "Will Story" (make up a story where Will is the central character) before naptime, then give a hug and a kiss and put up the second gate. Some days he protests at the gates for a minute, most days he goes right to sleep. If he protests longer, we basically go outside his door every 10 minutes and say, "It's time for a nap, love you!" and then leave again, regardless of what he's asking for or saying.
So yeah - if you don't have it, I'd highly recommend reading the limit testing chapter in the Ferber book. It's short enough that you could probably just read it in the library or at the bookstore and put it back. You can do it lady.
Ha. I posted this and while waiting for responses I went and read Bethie's post. Um, did I say I screamed... pshawww. Screaming is for crazy people.
I really do love you guys. Just writing it out for a second and reading 4 responses made me feel less cracked.
I just don't know what I'm going to do in the short run here... I know they have little crib tent things, but the whole death trap thing kinda scares me. I'm not that mad at him for not napping that I was him to die. But I'm not ready, especially right this second waiting for kid #2 to make her arrival, to try switching him to a big boy bed. Besides, that doesn't really solve anything. He's going to just crawl out of his bed and play with his toys. I just need to know I'm going to get a break at some point in the day. And... well, he's not that great of a negotiator yet.
Thankfully, Pete works from home... And he'll be getting 2 weeks "off" (I know he'll still be doing work). My mom will be here for a few days... I'm just down on the FOREVER part right now. Like, there's no turning back. And soon there will be 2. And I can't drug them and get away with it.
I'm.Just.Freaking.Out.
It's ok, I am freaking out with one and a dog.
Perhaps you can drop some Baileys in his milk?
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
I'm really going to be all up in your grillz, NP and Kristen... Not sure how you guys do it with so much grace. We need to get the conversion rails for his crib to make it into a bed. But we have everything else.
I will take any and all offers of punting, druging, hypnotizing, and adopting.
Oh, Hezz. I'm only anti-punching, not anti-screaming. :P
I'm sorry, lady. Not to be all creepy or anything, but I'm totally down for babysitting if you ever need it!
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Oh Hezz, I want to give you a big, big hug. You're not a bad mom, or crazy. YOU CAN DO THIS!
And I'll help Bethie babysit!
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Oh Hezz
You are in no way a bad mom!
Aw, that's rough. I'm hoping it's just a very short phase.
I cracked up at you calling him Son #1 though.
Aw, Hezzer I'm sorry your having a rough time
Add me to the babysitters club. I'm sure between Bethie, Moo & I, we will keep your kid alive.
Claire Elizabeth 12/31/2011
Married Bio
aww, sorry hezz {{{HUGZZZ}}}
hey the four of us can babysit! I've kept a child alive for over 17 years, that has to count for something!
Oh man. If it weren't for naptime i'd lose my mind, too, AND I work 5 days a week so only really NEED naptime 2 days a week. You, my friend, are a champ.
Listen, you can do this. You have to do this. not enough gypsies come around looking to buy toddlers anymore (beleive me, i know)