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Convince me I should have another kid
I'm not going to lie to you b*tches (and Groomz). We are TTC the 2nd spawn and I'm am f'ing petrified. Can I handle another kid? Can I handle a newborn again? Do I really need to be paying to put ANOTHER kid in daycare? Will a second kid disrupt our nice calm life?
I wonder how much of my fear is legitamate and how much is typical "cold feet" type stuff? I know I went through this while we were TTC Liza, which worked out pretty good, but I don't know. I'M SKEERED.
Re: Convince me I should have another kid
don't tell Hezz or Sam, but I wouldn't do it.
nah, I'm sure it will be great. People much dumber than you have lots of kids, you can dooo eeet!
ETA: I didn't mean to imply that I think you are dumb, really.
I had a lot of the same fears you do and I'm quite pleased with having a second. Evie is pretty mellow and awesome, and I love watching her and Will interact. Newborn/infant phase seems way easier this time around. I doubt having a second will disrupt your life in the long term much - I think having the first is the major adjustment.
It's not all hearts and roses, of course. Last night I wanted to punt Evie when she woke up for the 34th time after bedtime. And sometimes Will asks me to "put Evie away" and play with him only, and that makes me feel bad. But most of the time it's pretty awesome.
That Will is FUNNY.
It sounds to me like typical fear. I had the same fear about one kid. The way I see it, people handle two kids all the time. You can do it.
That being said, my husband is pushing to have another and I am holding firm on 'no.'
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Whatever. Yes you did.
I am honest to god terrified about this. That is why if I scrape by with no twins on the second one, we are so done. Zane wants three, but I just no the universe would smite me. Not a single one of my cousins (my mom's twins daughters) have made it through without twins.
I just started clomid, and I will tell you that if I get pregnant w/ twins I will LOSE MY F'ING SH*T. Seriously. And I thought the same thing re frowned-upon selective reduction.
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
i am terrified. i let my husband put his thing in my thing and we did our thing and now I'm freking the foff out.
Also, the ultrasound tech I had at 8 weeks and was ALL over the place with that wand on my stomach. And they're all quiet and stuff, so when they finally started talking to me i blurted "ONE RIGHT???YOU JUST SEE ONE??? Oh thankchrist."
Hello, welcome to my brain. My dad is a fraternal twin. Hold me.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
You make cute kids so you probably should just have another (I am speaking to you too Kay).
I think nerves are normal but more people like you should have kids and less people like those featured on Teen Mom. Consider it your duty to society to off set the crazies.
We have always planned on two. We were just waiting until we moved into a new house. Now that that is done, I am still clutching onto my bc pills for dear life. We'll start in the next couple of months, but I too am skeeeered at the thought of it all.
However, I also think about the newborn stage and know that the second time will be so different. It just won't have the same, "OMG WHAT AM I DOING??!?! HOW IS THIS POOR LITTLE GUY GOING TO SURVIVE??!!" vibe to it that the first time did.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
I'm in Angie's camp. You couldn't pay me to have another baby. The one I have is just fine.
But good luck!
Liza's great w/ the #1s, but she holds strong on no No. 2's. She likes to hide behind her shelf in her playroom and crap her pants. I can be across the house, and hear the shelf moving out from the wall and know EXACTLY what she's up to.
If I got pregnant TODAY, Liza would be 3 before I popped this kid out.
A friend of mine had one kid, started TTCing and then got laid off so they put plans for baby #2 on hold. Too late though - she'd already gotten herself knocked up again - this time with TWINS. So now she's got three kids in a two bdrm apartment.
If you're going to do it, I'd do it sooner than later. I think the further you get from babyhood, the harder it is to contemplate going back there. And, it's nice to have siblings somewhat close in age who can keep eachother occupied one day.
We're planning one more, but I'm nowhere near ready yet. But try to tell that to my aging uterus.
Am I going to be smited for saying that we are thinking about having three?
I mean, I just want to get this one out, of course, but my H comes from a family of four kids, and I loved having my little sister around, so the idea of just one is something we never even contemplated.
If we had a lot more $ and I had a different job, I wouldn't mind having 3.
I was really unsure about having a second. But it is awesome.
I really like having a bigger age gap. My sis and I were 4 years apart and fought all the time, I feel like a bigger gap lessens competition. And Bug's already looking forward to picking him up from school once she can drive.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
As of now I want 3, but talk to me again when I finish law school and get a job and we'll see how that tune changes.
It does make me a little sad that I won't be able to stay home the first year with our future children like I am with Sean. But, I'll be making money (knock on wood) and we'll be able to do things like go on vacations so there will be trade offs.
I do think, though, that if for some reason I'm not able to get pregnant, I would probably not go to heroic efforts (ART) to do so. But then again, I miss my little newborn grub...
Good luck, Mulva.
The hair grows in thick where the horn used to be.
The propensity to have fraternal twins aren't passed from father to daughter, just mother to daughter. You're welcome. (Not you though Buddha, sorry).