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I should have written this days ago...
These last few weeks have been HARD! DH's depression has gotten really bad and I've taking on a lot of stress. At points I've felt as though I am suffocating. His anxiety has been through the roof. On top of this I have been working 9.5 hour days and the whole time I've been completely beside myself in worry.
So last week it got to the point that I ended up calling my IL's crying from work telling them that that morning when I left DH was beside himself in grief and I couldn't do anything. They ended up picking him up and taking him to a walk-in clinic where he was FINALLY prescribed an anti-depressant. (We haven't gotten a family doctor yet here, and the previous one wanted him to try exercising regularly to see if that would help....It is impossible to motivate someone so depressed to exercise) He has been improving but with all these finals coming up it is hard to see much improvement, for someone who isn't clinically depressed the situation would cause a lot of anxiety....he just feels it triple-fold.
I really just needed to vent. It has been HARD! I would so appreciate your guys thoughts and prayers as we go through this tough time. Thanks in advance.
Re: I should have written this days ago...
Cecilia arrived 12 October 2012
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
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Cycle 12, IUI #1 - 33m post wash 10/15/10 = BFN
Cycle 13, IUI #2 - 15m post wash 11/16/10 = BFP, missed m/c, D&C 1/3/11
Cycle 15 - 18, IUI #3-6 = BFN
Cycle 20, IUI #7 = BFP!, missed m/c 9/14, D&C
DE-IVF Aug. 2012: ER 8/30 11R, 7M, 4F; ET 9/4 returned 2
Beta 9/18 #1-820, #2-1699, #3-7124
10/1 1st u/s measuring right on track, 125 bpm
I'm sorry to hear that you guys are going through this.
Just a note about antidepressants - it will take anywhere from 6-8 weeks at the optimal dosage for him in order for him to see the best results. He should be feeling better within a few weeks but he won't be his best for maybe 4-5 months if he needs dosage increases. Also, if he's getting worse on the meds, he needs to see a doctor ASAP.
Can he get into a therapist or counsellor in the meantime? Drugs by themselves are not always the answer. Maybe the school has free or subsidized therapy? It is definitely something to look into.
If you need anything at all, you know we're all here to talk and for support. ~hugs~
So sorry to hear you are going through this. I'm glad to hear you DH is getting some help and hopefully he will be better in no time. We are here if you ever need to vent. I will keep you guys in my T&P.
HUGS
He is going in to see a councellor tomorrow afternoon, so hopefully everything works out, he is planning to ask about what kind of coverage...if any he gets as a student and maybe we can figure something out from there.
Baby #2: Surprise BFP 9.19.12, EDD 5.24.13, natural m/c 10.19.13 at 9w
Oh man, that sucks. Mental disorders are so tough. Exercise often times does help, but you're right, how do you get someone who wants to hide away out of the house and working out? I know you're super busy, but would you have time to go out for 30 minutes a day with him for a walk?
Hopefully the meds will kick in soon and help him out!
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My DH has gone through periods in where he is very depressed. It is hard to get the motivation to do anything. I know when DH does feel he's slipping back into it it does help to go walking through our neighborhood. I find that it helps me too. It's good to get out and get away from everything even if it's only for a few minutes.
I hope the medication helps.
BFP 5/2/11, missed m/c, D&C 6/13/11
BFP 12/8/11--Little Girl E Born 8/22/12