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Mother in law i dont know what to do????
A while back my mother-in-law told me that she had cheated on her husband, now i feel like im keeping something from my husband and i want to tell him but i dont know if i should. It makes it really hard to be around her as well she isnt easy to start with but... this makes it worse. i dont know what to do.
What would you do.
Re: Mother in law i dont know what to do????
I would talk to her again and ask her what SHE wants you to do? Did she tell you because she hoped you would tell him? Talk to her and tell her that you are still trying to deal with the information and don't want to feel like you're going behind her back OR your H's back.
Did she tell you as a warning to not do it yourself? Is she trying to protect her son?
Tell your husband, but at the right time. I am saying that because with the holidays coming up this might try to tear his family apart.
It isn't your place, or at least his family might think it isn't, to do something about it. But it is hurting you and keeping it inside doesn't work well.
You could always give her the option to tell her husband herself. Like tell her you don't want to ruin the holidays with what she told you but that if by February it isn't out, you will tell family. That depends if she is a drama starter or will try and stab you in the back.
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I probably would have told my DH from the get-go and told her that I don't keep secrets like that from my husband.
You can always tell her, "MIL, I'm just not comfortable keeping this information from my husband. I'm really very sorry you chose to share this with me. I don't feel right not sharing this with DH, so here are the options -- you can tell him yourself by X date, or I'm going to tell him myself."
How much MORE trouble would it cause if your husband found out from somebody else and then found out that you'd known about it and not told him? Your primary loyalty is to him, not to your MIL.
Yes.
Not to quote a corny romantic comedy, but omissions are lies too. If my mom cheated on my dad, I would feel terrible for my dad, but feel like ultimately it was an issue for the two of them. If my H lied to me, by way of keeping a HUGE secret for me, THAT would be an issue between him and me.
He won't forgive you if you keep it for him forever.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
At first, I was going to say that none if it seems to be your business, and that I would just move on or offer yourself as someone to talk if she feels she needs to work through it before she tells her husband.
But in light of this, if she's that violent/secretive, maybe it is best to get it out in the open. It might do a world of good for the younger daughter in the long run.