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and working mothers...
What the heck do you do about childcare???
I mean, I knew it wouldn't be cheap, but holy crap it's pricey! We don't have anyone that could watch the baby during the day (my mom still works 6 days a week and MIL is going to be 79 right before the baby is born) and I am not leaving my child in the home of a stranger. At this point, sounds like DH will be going back to road patrol on second shift. Not completely ideal because we will rarely see each other and he'll have a rotating schedule (4 days on/2 off) but so far seems like the best option.
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Re: and working mothers...
First- mega congrats to you!
As for child care - we started off taking R to a friend that DH and I used to work with when we worked in daycare. She was totally out of the way and I didn't particularly like that she took the kids out and about several times each week. After DH was laid off, I looked for other care.
We found our current sitter on craigslist. Strange and scary, I know...but she is absolutely amazing! If she wasn't taking on my baby and the other boy's sister in the next coming months I would totally recommend her to you - but she won't have any openings.
If your moms aren't an option and you have no other close family members or friends, have you both tried asking around work for what people do? If there are some people that you feel make wise choices and seem to have similar values to you, it's worth finding out if their choice of day care is a possibility for you.
A daycare center was out of our price range, but with our in-home sitter, it is much more affordable.
I know of a few people in different parts of town that I would recommend if you want them. I don't know specifically where you guys work/live and what's convenient for you.
Ultimately, if you decide to look for an in-home sitter, I feel it's better to have at least one or two other kids there and I'm totally crazy and my sitter writes down EVERYTHING for us each day - meals,diaper changes, favorite toys, what he helps with, what his challenges were that day. It takes her 2 seconds, but at least I know what's going on. And, now that I can talk with R, he will tell me about things - so it's almost checking itself. I felt extremely comfortable the moment we met, which was also a welcome feeling.
Good luck in your quest! It's not easy, but it really helps if you have complete trust in the person/people who watch your child when youcan't be with them all day
I use an in-home daycare (same one MC uses), she is state certified so not really leaving your kid with a complete stranger who just babysits, I pay $3/hr, which isn't bad. It's really hard to get used to the idea of leaving your child with someone else, but it gets easier and it's always nice if you can get recommendations from other people with kids.
When I was pg with ds we always thought that DH would just handle child care during the day while I was at work since he worked 3rds, but after having J we realized that it really wasn't practical, even with DH moving to 2nd shift this spring and me working from home in the spring we will still need childcare a few days a week.
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You could always use sittercity.com and care.com. They do charge a fee, $30 a month, but once you find your nanny/sitter, you just cancel it.
I know of a lady in Sylvania, one of DH's employees uses her, if you are interested email me and I'll get you her info. I think she is $25 a day. We actually met with her a few months back, we were going to use her every Friday just to give me a break. I really liked her, she was super nice, very, very clean home. She lives in one of the nice neighborhoods off Erie Street near Highland Meadows.
If you end up going the care center route, I've heard wonderful things about Maria Child Care and Childrens Discovery Center.
I did at home care with Addison too. I know it's scary to leave your child with a stranger! Just like pp said ask around work, you might find a sitter that way. I found my sitter in Whitehouse by an advertisement in a local supermarket! Crazy right!? HaHa. There were a couple flyers up so I took them all and then there was house in the area that had a sign in the front yard, advertising for in home daycare. I set up 4 interviews in total. I really liked the last lady I met. She had several other children she watched & references. Her husband worked for Toledo Police Dept for 15+ years, she had a resume etc. She just KNOW when something feels right. Yes, she was a complete stranger but I felt comfortable bringing A to her. She watched her for almost 2 years until I decided to SAH 18mo ago. We moved to Millbury but if I would have stayed in the area and stayed working she would have watched both girls.I paid $25 for Addison & it would have been $35 for the two.
GL ... it's very scary but if you find someone you like and trust you will feel so much better! I'd honestly start looking now. That way you have plenty of time to interview and do references.
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I did not realize you quit your job! That is not an option for me...I finally am in a place where I make pretty decent money with future possibilities, decent benefits, close to home, etc.
Yeah, I am in the process of getting started working from home. I didn't make a whole lot and there wasn't a way for us to arrange our schedules so that we didn't need daycare. Once I am working from home I can work 15-20 hours a week and I will be able to set up my schedule so that I can work after Chase gets home and we will still bring home as much as if I was back at the bank. While there was room to grow with the bank, it was not a company that I could see myself staying at forever. It was still hard to leave though, I really liked the people I worked with and I miss some of the regular customers. I only live 10 min away though so I do stop in and visit a couple times a week and I usually manage to catch at least one regular while I am in there.
Butting in:
http://www.ywchildcareconnections.org/parent_services.htm
We use licensed homes in our "Home of Our Own" program. Here's a start page. Then you can search for a licensed in home provider.
My Bff takes her child her.
http://littlesproutsacademy.com/services.aspx
We wanted me to stay home, but couldn't afford it right now and my job does not offer part-time. So, our first sitter we found through a friend, but she wanted to take A all over the place. Our current sitter, who we are happy with, we found when I posted on craigslist. We went to about 8 daycares first and interviewed 2 ppl from my craiglist ad. The cost of out of home daycare, was higher and we could afford it, but we wanted A (and the dr did too) to be with less kids due to being a preemie. After you do it so many times, you figure out what to ask and you also getting a feeling for people/places. I liked starting at daycare centers first and that prepared us for the in home places I think.. question wise.