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Ugh...not someones news to share.
I'm just venting guys...so bear with me.
MIL told me today she knows my SIL (H;'s brothers wife) told her
Mother about me being pg. She said she only told me bc she wasn't sure
if SILs mother was going to call mine...I said..ha...um, no...she has
not... My FIL is actually pretty p-oed about this also...I think they
saw the very emotional/pissed side of me today...anyways...
I specifically told SIL she could say something to her sister, but I REALLY would like it to be on the DL with everyone else.
This I told her. What she said to me? I will keep it a secret. It's MH
(again, H's bro) you have to worry about ha ha (kidding). Well bullcrap.
He kept it a secret.
I am really upset (well have since calmed down...) but I feel like I can't trust her...it's not her news to share with anyone. My own sisters in laws don't even know. My own great uncle does not even know. What gives her the right to blab her mouth... maybe I am more just venting now...but I have to question who else she told.
I don't know I'm just frustrated..I told MIL one day G-d willing when she (SIL) is pg, she will understand. You have one chance with me. Cross me once, I'm done trusting you. Some may say drastic, it's how I roll.
Just a really frustrating day. Part of me wants to address this w/ SIL. I think I may ask her out to coffee/lunch soon and explain I found out she told her mother, and while I know they are super close, G-D FORBID something happens, I really DO NOT WANT TO UNTELL A million and one people...And I was not ready to share with extended family- it's not her news to share...her sister was an exception...and I feel very betrayed.
Ugh.
Re: Ugh...not someones news to share.
Ugh....I'm sorry Jackie.
I was having similar emotions when I found out that my mom had told my grandparents and niece the day I confided in her.
I was so angry, and filled with almost hatred with her stealing my once in a lifetime moment. I definitely called my mom on it.
I kept beating a dead horse, wanting a different outcome (other than apologies) even though that was impossible.
It really really sucks that this happened to you.
I'm sorry. Typically I'd suggest wine. How about sorbet?
I am so sorry. I know how you feel. My MIL told people the first time I got pregnant, but then neglected to follow up telling them that I had miscarried. I was put in an very awkard position when someone asked how my pregnancy was going. Needless to say we waited much longer to tell her about it the second time around.
The Sand in My Snow Boots
Thanks guys. You know, for a while I definitely felt like I was overreacting...
But it's a big deal. And I told MIL...(over and over)...SIL will understand how important it is when one day, willing, she gets pg.
Only I won't tell people if she tells me not to...bc that's what trust is.
Part of me want to confront her...part of me doesn't want to even deal with her.
I don't see anything wrong with letting someone know that they broke your trust, let you down, and hurt your feelings.
But I would try my best to move past it once you've said your peace. And just moving forward, learn to keep things closer if you don't want them spread.
ITA. Don't hold a grudge, just let her know your feelings and let that be that.
The Sand in My Snow Boots
This really sucks.
Well with baby #2 I'd be sure that SIL would be the last one to find out.
ITA with your advice. Thanks guys.
So we found out in the last couple weeks of me working in B-more. One of my co-workers knew we were trying so she was in the habit of asking me every week, so she found out before we were telling anyone else (I never flat out lied to someone if they asked if I was pregnant). She told one of my other co-workers and I believe the words that flew out of my mouth were "What the fvck, Jenny, I didn't say you could tell anyone."
Then my boss finds out and at my going away party they had gotten me a six pack of Natty Boh and she says (in front of half the people we work with) "That can just be for Clint, hehehe." Which leads everyone else to have confused looks so I announced it to everyone there. Pissed.
All that to mean I would be pissed too and I think you have a right to tell her that it's crap she betrayed your trust. But yeah, you can't undo it, so let it go after that (which sounds like what you're going to do).
I totally agree and I'm sorry she did that, and don't feel bad I'm the same way cross me and watch out.
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