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I'm a single lady again
NG and I broke up. Sigh. I'm actually really proud of myself though. We both knew that there were parts of his lifestyle that I wasn't totally OK with, and that it might become an issue. A few days ago I brought up the fact that I was afraid it was going to bother me, so we decided that if I ever thought that I wasn't going to be able to deal with our differences we'd break up right then, because we'd rather be able to still be friends and not have to go through a whole messy breakup later on when we are more attached. So on my drive home today I realized I wasn't going to be okay with it, so I told him and that was it. I'm proud that I was able to be honest with him and break it off even though I don't want to. I love him and I love being with him, if not for that one aspect of his life things could be pretty great.
My goal is to be single for a while BUT well I am really bad at that (obviously hahaha) so we'll see how long it lasts.
Re: I'm a single lady again
i'm so proud of you for making such a big decision. you made the right decision since you knew there were things you couldn't live with. You had fun while it lasted and thats all that matters. You are such a strong lady
I saw your status on FB and I love it, very well said! *hugs*
I agree!! Well said!
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
I wish I was capable of such a thing back when me and Brandon were first dating!! But then I wouldn't know any of my amazing Nesties!!!
Double agreed!
Sounds like you left things off that you can still be friends, and it seems like you both want to be. I think being single for a while would be a good thing. Now you know what you want and don't want and will find someone amazing.
Good for you for being able to recognize it wasn't what you really would have been comfortable with in the long run. It's better to be on your own than to settle for something you're not sure you can ultimately live with.
Being single isn't a bad thing - you have time for YOU now that you didn't have for awhile now...being engaged, married, so newly divorced, back into a relationship. Stop for a while, take time to breathe, take stock of who you are now and what you really want and then head back out there. :-)
It so great that you not only recognized it, but that you followed through with your promise to yourselves. Congratulations!