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I am the best wife in the world
Seba is going skiing this weekend...and I am playing the Plug Fairy while he is away.
Noisy, how long did it take Will to adjust to no pacifier?
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You are a brave woman. I imagine that is tough.
Does he just use it at naps? I have never seen him with a pacifier
I think this is a good idea. Guaranteed consistency if you're the only one there*.
* disclaimer: I realize this shouldn't be an issue with couples that actually support each other in these things, but every family has the weak parent who will eventually give in easier than the other.
Vinny I know! I hit post and thought "wait that sounds dirty, I sound like a cheating hussy rather than the best wife in the world."
winger, yep - he uses it to fall asleep, that's it. But it's pretty much the only thing he has a particular attachment too. I will help him through it, but I'm guessing it will be a tough few days.
May I interject our experience? We took Maggie's away this summer, after the dentist told her it was time to go. So she and I talked about it-I asked if she was ready to get rid of them and she said yes. I took her to the store and let her pick out a new toy to replace the paci (she selected a Pillow Pet), and we came home and she threw them in the trashcan.
The first weeks of naps were rough. She just couldn't figure out how to settle down without one. I could see her on the video monitor looking confused and restless and she would just cry and cry. She never asked for one, but she knew something was different. Bedtime, strangely, was a breeze. No difference there. So based on our experience, cold turkey wasn't too terrible, but she only took it at naps or bed anyway.
I've had a couple friends do the snip it off until there's nothing left bit, or one friend took her 3 year old to build a bear and they put the pacis inside so he knew where they were and could still feel them, but not suck.
That's kind of what I was thinking too, although I don't want to give the impression that he wouldn't be supportive or helpful. I'll put him up for dad of the year anytime. But: 1) I am more likely to ride out the really frustrating moments easier than he would and 2) I'm bound to get exasperated at some point too so at least I can just go scream in a pillow downstairs and at least it's not both of us pulling our hair out and (possibly) bickering at each other.
And just imagine the CREDITS I will get for this!!
So I am clearly not a parent but since moving into the twos room I have supported many a parent through the binky fairy.
Is there a new or just younger kid he is close or really likes? The kids who have had the easiest transition in my experience are the ones who think their binkies are going to a new baby so they feel like the big kid caring for the baby. This of course could backfire if he is going through any sort of MINE place.
Yes this is helpful! I will be interested to see how it goes, because if I had to guess I would say the opposite will happen with him (i.e., bedtime will be harder than nap time - he crashes at nap time).
We started discussing the plug fairy about a week ago and I think he understands it as much as he can. I'll help him through it - in my mind, WE allowed him to get so attached to it for so long, so I feel it's our responsibility to help him with letting it go. I anticipate a lot of nuggles.
But you know - his whole life he has surprised me with how adaptable he is to changes, so maybe it won't be as bad as I'm expecting. Wish me luck! T minus 3.5 days.
Awh man, this is so cute November!
This is us too. Mr. Winged is so helpful but he bends so easily.
You are the bestest wife. I am impressed. We talked about the paci fairy for several days before and we were pretty sure he understood the concept. He sat his pacis out on the porch at bedtime and when he got up the next morning the paci fairy left him a Woody from Toy Story. The first several nights were really rough. Lots of crying, lots of pleading, lots of begging. He would have loved Woody if he'd received it under other circumstances, but he spent a few weeks resenting him and once said that Woody made his pacis go away.
We take turns being the lenient parent, which is funny because on days I do it I know it drives Lorne nuts, and on days Lorne does it it drives me up the wall. Just don't make the mistake we did of being more flexible with other nighttime things (leaving the light on, "just one more story") because you feel bad about throwing his pacifiers in the dumpster. It made the adjustment period worse and instead of 4-5 days it took a couple weeks to get back to normal. But damn, when your kid asks you why his paci doesn't love him anymore, it makes you feel bad.
And then a stupid sleep book told us that taking pacis away needs to be done before 1.5 years or after 3 years, DO NOT DO IT IN BETWEEN, but we'd already done it and he was chewing through them anyway and they offered no advice on that situation, so fucck you stupid sleep book. Fucck you right in the ear.
So yeah. We did a lot of things wrong.
Huh. Well he's not too far from 3 - I wonder if we should wait? What was the book's reasoning? He doesn't bite through it or anything so it's not a safety hazard. He's been to the dentist and he just said to do it by three years old.
Thank you for the advice on keeping the rest of the routine the same.
I did get him a toy but it's not a character or stuffed animal or anything - it's a bus with some people on it and it plays music. Maybe he won't take it as personally from a vehicle? Haha
Thank you ladies for the input, all of it will be helpful....
I sleep-trained Ian while F was away, and got major credits.
On the paci subject, the five year old son of an acquaintance still sleeps with a pacifier. She posts photos of him on Facebook with the pacifier in his mouth. Another friend tells her she should be embarrassed to post the pictures.
My next door neighbors when I was a kid had a daughter a year younger than I am who slept with her pacifier until THIRD GRADE. Even at sleepover parties. It was astonishing.
It's clear from the beaming picture of Will in your siggy that you've fuckedhimupgoodandproper with the whole paci removal.
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