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My cousin's imploding marriage...
So, I got some sad news this weekend from my parents about my cousin and the fate of his marriage. For background, he is 1 1/2 younger than me (so he's 25, he'll be 26 in January) and he was married to his wife about a month after my wedding. She just turned 21 after they got married. This is his first really serious adult relationship. She was raised by a very strict preacher father and everyone thought she was marrying my cousin just to escape her family. But of course, no one could say anything to him, because he was in love!
So it appeared that she had been having all kinds of health problems lately, seizures and not being able to be on her feet long and just not feeling well in general. It finally got so bad that he took her to the hospital last weekend, where they observed her for a couple nights and watched her have some of these seizures. Well it turns out that nothing medically is wrong with her and it was all in her head! Her body wasn't seizing, but she presented all the signs. The doctor's are convinced she's doing it to get attention. This past Friday it all got so bad that my cousin called her mom and told her mom to come get his wife and her clothes and get her out of the house. He asked his dad for advice and the gist of the conversation was if you're going to get out of the marriage, the sooner the better. He doesn't think he can deal with this among other things that she has done in the short time they have been married.
I feel so bad for my cousin and was just hoping you girls could keep him in your thoughts. I can't even imagine how hard this must be for him right now. He has some money from his mother's parents and his house is paid for and I'm really afraid she is going to try to take a lot of this away from him because she has never had a full-time job and thus, no money. I also really hope that she can get some mental help counseling because she can't go on like this.
This also just hits so close to home that in a weird way it makes me feel so so so so lucky for my husband and our relationship.
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Wow! This has to be just so heartbreaking for your cousin! He'll be in my Ts & Ps. Hopefully since the marriage was short she won't be able to get much.
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Oh, my!! I'm so sorry to hear about this. Lots of thoughts, prayers and hugs to your cousin and hopefully he can get this resolved as soon as possible.
Since they haven't been married long, would this be grounds for annulment on the basis of his wife being mentally unstable? I'm just curious; I'm not sure how all of that works.
Good luck to him, with the legalities of the issue as well as with the healing process of the brokenheartedness he must be going through!
That's what I'm wondering, too. I would hope that's the case so there's not chance of her getting her hands on his money, but I don't know the law where he lives.
Rachel: I think this is really just the last straw in a string of things that she has done. She's really become a completely different person since almost the day they got married. She got a tattoo on their honeymoon (which he didn't see coming) and she's been acting like a spoiled brat. He went to a big event (a fly-in: gathering for small aircraft, like a festival and show all in one) to drum up business that he goes to every year and she came along this time. Then she threw a fit when she didn't get attention because he was networking. My dad even had to say something to her because she was being unreasonable. She apparently thought they were going on vacation. So this had just been building to the "seizures" and he's had it. If you knew my cousin at all you would understand how huge it was for him to kick her out of the house. That's so not his character.
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The annulment was my first though, hopefully that will work out for him. And I hope that he comes out of this mentally fine as well, even if it takes a while, which I have no doubt that it will.