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Rough week rant
I posted about some of this over on the knot... but I'm really bummed about the situation. After speaking to my principal, I was sure we were going to take steps to deal with this girl who's taking diet pills. By the end of the day, it was decided that we weren't going to call the parents and that until the girl passes out at school (as opposed to at home where the parents know but haven't taken any positive steps), we won't do anything.
I'm so angry. I mean really? Waiting until she gets worse? She's already lost her short term memory. Her voice has jumped up an octave. These pills are seriously messing with her growth. What kills me the most is that, because she started them over the summer, none of her teachers have noticed a change in her behaviour. It's only because she comes to talk to me that I've noticed.
And really parents? Diet pills? Under what circumstances does putting your 13 year old daughter on diet pills make sense? It took her 13 years to put on the weight. There IS no quick fix. She's doing the right thing by joining the running club, but the salads without protein everyday for lunch? The total lack of carbs? The fact that she has difficulty sleeping at night and YOU have difficulty waking her up in the morning. REALLY?
Sometimes the things parents do to their kids, however well meaning, makes my blood boil.
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that sucks.... i hate as well when the administration doesn't want to get involved until they have to. Do you know if her parents or mom put her on them or if they were her own idea? That's horrible too that her nutrition is so poor - I mean, who has told her not to eat proteins with / why isn't she eating lean proteins with her salads?
I'm glad she has you to talk to - sounds like she's told you about some of the side effects she's encountered. How does she feel about taking the pills? It is great that you are a part of her life - who knows, maybe the guidance, support, and information you give her may help her.
Her mother put her on them. That's why the admin feels like we can't do anything. We can't tell parents what to do!
And again, it's a combination of her parents (specifically her mum) and an idiotic teacher at the school who are telling her to eat salads. She has so little self esteem that she's following exactly what they say.
The thing is, she feels good about taking the pills. She's lost close to 40 lbs since starting them over the summer. She has no reason to stop. Plus, I think they're making her feel a little high. There's a rush that comes with starving your body. I think she's becoming addicted to it.
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would you feel comfortable talking to the idiotic teacher? I mean, just saying something like, "wouldn't lean proteins like chicken breast make the salad a more balanced meal?" Very non-threatening, sort of asking an innocent question kind of thing.
I can't believe this teacher is ending up using her position to give such bad advice! How come this teacher can tell her what kind of salad to eat but you're not allowed to express concern to her mother about how dangerous these pills are? Ultimately, of course it is the family's decision, but maybe the mother doesn't know all the negative consequences of the pills? I wish you were free, even if the mom already knows, to talk about it with her; maybe it would make her feel guilty and consider stopping it!
yeesh. This society sucks sometimes. And I feel very ashamed to admit that when you wrote that she lost 40 lbs, I thought, "I wonder which pills those are. I need to take those."
Ugh, how frustrating it must be for you to watch her put herself through this. I can't believe how she/her mom can think that a salad is good diet food. This isn't the 80's!
Is there any literature available at your school/through the school board for teens about better food choices?
That is really rough. I'm sorry you're going through it without any support from your school.
I think the 40 lbs are related more to the salad eating than to the pills, to be honest.
This is the thing about teaching, you know? We get to see amazing parenting choices and really, REALLY bad ones. What makes it harder is parents are trying to do the right thing most of the time, but sometimes the right thing is the hard choice, and they suck at making tough decisions, they want to be friends with their child, etc, etc, etc. As a general rule, I try not to be too judgmental of them, especially because I'm not a parent, but it's hard when those choices negatively impact the health of their child and they're too blind to see it.
I feel extra badly about the whole thing right now, as I was lurking over on the HI bump board and noticed a thread about not judging parents.
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