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Mixing my family and his

This Christmas, we're seeing my family (it's their year) in Florida. Since we missed Thanksgiving with my DH's family due to expensive plane tickets, we organized a mini family reunion at Disney World with his family, his uncle/aunt and cousins and the two of us.

We plan to spend four days at Disney World with them, hanging out and doing Christmas then. From there, we'll go spend the holiday from 23-30 with my family at their home. 

Well, my parents asked me if they could join us for a day at Disney. I'm torn on what to say. I've talked to my DH and he says he doesn't care if they come for a day - as long as it was just one day. I'm torn because my parents will be seeing me in just a few days, so I wish they'd let me have this time with DH's family. Then again, it might be a fun memory to make to have both families hanging out and having fun at a theme park.

Also, my parents have offered to host a lunch on the day we check out of the hotel for everyone - since DH's family is dropping us off anyway, why not have a time to hang out, all together?

Should my parents come to Disney one of the days? Should I tell them just to do the lunch? What do you think? 

Re: Mixing my family and his

  • I don't know why you are so worried - that sounds like a GREAT day!! My husband's family is relatively small and mine is really REALLY big and we combine holidays often. At first I was worried that the IL small family would be over whelmed but we just did and any because i have nephews on his side, they LOVED it because there are tons of kids on my side.


    I would say just go for it.. With the lunch, if your husband wants to have a second day with just them you can say thanks but no thanks. Family has to be understanding.. it's what they do best

  • If you don't have a preference one way or the other, your husband doesn't care, and your husband's family doesn't care, then I say go with it.  The only thing I would be worried about is whether your husband's family would be honest about whether or not they would be bothered by it.  If you do ask, have your husband ask, and make it absolutely clear that it's okay for them to say no.
  • I don't see anything wrong with bringing both families together. I think it would be fun.

    Are your ILs the type of people to be cool with it, or are they the type of people to throw a fit and cause drama over it?  Would it be more comfortable for all if H mentions it to them first?

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  • I was probably overreacting about all of this. My ILs are cool and have had meals with my family each time mine has visited the state they live in. I don't think they would mind, but I like the idea of having DH ask them privately to be completely sure.

    Once again, you ladies rock! I'll cool my jets.

  • I know if this were my family and ILs this would not fly because they don't really get along that well.  But it just depends on how your families get along.  The most important thing is that your ILs don't feel like their time with you guys is invaded.  I would have DH ask his parents and tell them that it's perfectly fine if they'd rather just have the two of youu to themselves.
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