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Venting about Christmas
I usually love Christmas, but for some reason I am B!tchy McScroogerson this year. I think between the wedding, honeymoon, moving, trying to sell the house and baby on the way I am just overwhelmed.
My mom called me about two weeks ago asking what we were getting for my grandparents for Christmas. I told her we were probably going to get them a print of a wedding pic and a nice frame since I didn't have any other ideas. "Oh, well, i was going to do calendars of your wedding pictures for them." Um, it's not your damn wedding, so just back off, dammit.
Fast forward to today and I am on the snapfish website and realize I can do photobooks for less than $20, plus 35% off - awesome. Plus, we just got our pro photos last weekend (fed ex/photog eff-up sent them to the wrong address) so I have NICE pics that I can use. And mommy dearest has since ordered photo albums for both my grandparents using the candids they have since "you weren't going to do it." God only know what horrific shots are in these albums - I'll probably be burning them in a couple years.
No doubt when the baby arrives she'll be taking pics of it and giving them out for gifts as well. Since, you know, it's 'her grandchild.'
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Re: Venting about Christmas
That's pretty obnoxious. I feel like the bride and groom have first dibs at giving out pics of their wedding. I mean, if someone took candids and wants to share them on FB that's great, but to make albums for your grandparents kind of crosses a line.
Based on some weird conversations my mom and I have had, I think she may have gotten us a Christmas gift with our own Shutterfly photos. It's NBD, but I feel kind of bad since we got her a photobook as part of her gift. Luckily there's no issue with overlapping gifts - I could definitely see her making a photobook for family members and it being weird since we did the same thing, but we don't have anyone on her side that we'd both do that for.
i know your stressed and upset that your parents are using one of your ideas as a gift, but think of it this way:
your mom is proud of you. she loves you. she thinks you are beautiful and that your wedding was awesome. she wants to share those moments with your family members. the fact that they are candid pictures means diddily squat to those who love you (like parents and grandparents). they just want to see pictures of you and honestly, probably wouldnt even notice the difference between the candids and the professional ones (at least not in my family). so just let her give the books (or calendars or whatever? cant remember...) she is giving them and be grateful that people want and will love pictures of your special day to have as a keepsake. it shows that they really love you. and you can still frame a nice picture of yourselves for them, they will love it. grandparents can NEVER have too many pictures of their grandkids/great grandkids. they love them!
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I see both Laura and Shauni's points - and get where you're coming from too.
I'm sure your mom is proud and wants to share the photos with everyone. And I know that most grandparents would be overly excited for any albums with wedding photos - whether they have 2 or 6. BUT - the fact that my mom was getting them an album as well would almost make me feel like she was "ruining" my gift. (Maybe that's not the right word, but I can't think of a better one off the top of my head...) They're YOUR photos and YOUR wedding to be excited about and YOU wanted to give them that nice, sentimental gift from you and H of your special day. I get it.
In the interest of not stressing yourself (and baby!) out over something you can't really control, just be thankful that your mom made her albums with different pictures and you're not giving them the *exact* same gift.
I would be irritated too. They are your pictures and YOU want to be the one to show them off. I think that she means well, but she needs to take it down a notch.
FWIW, I think it's better for your mental health if you look at it from Shauni's post's point of view. I 100% agree that your grandparents will not mind getting both a calendar and a framed print/photobook. I get why you're annoyed (as I already said) but it's already been done and there's no use holding on to it.
Not saying that you ARE holding a grudge and are all pissed off about it still, since a vent really is just a vent sometimes. But in case you are, just breathe and forget about it