November 2010 Weddings
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Poll: The first month
I know some of us haven't been married a month yet, but we're still all within the first month of marriage.
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult?
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to?
- Do you have a joint bank account?
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet?
- How are you planning on spending the holidays?
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months?
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Re: Poll: The first month
Its only been 10 days for us and we are still on our honeymoon. I love it. Not so much has changed. Once we get back and I change my name we'll be getting a joint household account, and I'll be doing the Dave Ramsey method, so that will be a change for us.
We aren't sure about holiday plans yet except that we travel to Louisiana to have Christmas Eve with my godmother. There is no negotiation on that. I've only missed one year since I was born.
We are TTC right now, so I'm looking forward to getting pregnant. Also, I'm giving my sister my car when she gets back from Ghana in May, so I'm looking forward to a new car too!
In the immediate future, I'm looking forward to getting home and opening all of our wedding presents.
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Easy peasy!
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Nothing yet, I guess having to share a space that was mine alone for so long.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes, we do, I feel like such an adult!
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes, eventually, after we return from our trip. I changed it on FB and it's so weird to see!
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? Not sure, I think split the days (i.e. Christmas eve and Christmas Day)
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Our delayed honeymoon to Costa Rica!- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? relatively easy, honestly. We had already been living together for a year and a half when we got married.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Not all that much has changed, though I keep forgetting my last name and answering the phone "Hi this is Robyn Maidenname"
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes, we have since we got engaged.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes, I am. We haven't gotten our marriage certificate yet so I can't do the SS/DMV, work or my student loans. I have done all of my credit cards (they didn't need any proof) and I've been using my new name.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? UGH. This is our schedule (shoot me, please):
Christmas Eve - his parent's for dinner, my family afterwards for dessert/mingling
Christmas Day - breakfast and present time between us, his parents for presents, my parents for presents & to see my family, his aunt's (paternal) then his aunt's (maternal).
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? my birthday and our dating anniversary/anniversary of when we got engaged
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Easy-ish. We are still figuring chores out to make things more even. We are still struggling with owning 2 houses. Mine won't sell.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? My new name.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Not yet - waiting for allt he SS and Driver's License to get done. Then the second house thing comes into play. It's seriously just easier for me to continue ot pay my bills and him his.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Friday!
- How are you planning on spending the holidays?A little bit here in mpls with his family and then a couple days at mine afterwards. We had a death in the family on his side so thought we should be here, but I have a terribly sick aunt so I want to be at mine. It's going to be a big hassle - but worth it.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Normal life.
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- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? I don't think anything has changed, except our insurance and my name... so easy.- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? signing my new name, and introducing myself.- Do you have a joint bank account? Yup. Joint checking/savings for most stuff (utilities, rent, our student loans, groceries, etc.) and we each have a separate checking for 'fun money' (eating out, his games/workout stuff, my hair/makeup stuff, etc) - Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? ALL DONE. Went to DMV and SS Card office the day before Thanksgiving, changed it at work yesterday, and mailed off letters to all student loans/utilities/CCs last week (all 13 of them.)- How are you planning on spending the holidays? Here with his family, then home the 27-30th or so with my family.- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Hopefully starting the homebuying process!
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- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Pretty easy. We've been living together for 2 years.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Saying "Husband" instead of "boyfriend" or "fiance". I also introduced myself as First HisLastName today in a meeting at work. It was...weird and people looked at me funny because it's still my maiden name in the system.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yep
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes changing. Just got the certified copy of the marriage certificate yesterday so I am going to the SSA at 3PM when I can leave work.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? Since we were in Ohio for the wedding over Thanksgiving, we ran out of vacation time. So it will be just the two of us for Christmas and New Year's. Perfect way to spend it in my opinion. I will be cooking a fabulous ham dinner.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? We're going on our official honeymoon in March ... taking a cruise to the Southern Caribbean! Then maybe TTC around June, but we may wait until beginning of 2012 depending on our housing situation.- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Fairly easy. We've never lived together but it felt very natural to combine our lives so far.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Loss of time, haha. Now H is my focus. I come home from work and can't just eat a bowl of cereal for dinner and stare at the TV. I have to consider what he wants to eat, what he wants to do, etc.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes!
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes, I am changing my name. It's half-changed (like, at work)... still need to make it totally legal.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? With my family until Christmas Day (with some private time scheduled in there) and then we're driving 7 hours to see his family for a few days.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? H's new job starting, getting me healthy, a possible trip overseas.- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? So far pretty easy.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Saying "husband" and my new name... in India people don't even know my maiden name, which was weird.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes
- Are you changing your name? Yes If so, have you done it yet? No... *sigh* we came back this weekend and it just sounds like so much work while I'm suffering from jetlag.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? Well, we missed Thanksgiving and we got a carving knife as a gift, so I'm thinking a turkey and a few friends for Christmas and maybe just us for a NYE date night.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? At the moment sleeping, not wedding planning, not meeting people 24/7. We're planning a trip to Peru next year, so I can probably start researching that soon.- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Just the idea of being married. We dated for 6 years so it is so different to think of ourselves as anything else
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes, but we also both still have our separate accounts. We will add each other to each, just haven't gotten around to it yet
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes, I haven't yet but am hoping to knock it out within the next week
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? Both of our families are in town. We do Christmas Eve with his dad's side, lunch with his mom, and dinner with my family
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Both of my sisters are expecting and due in May.. can't wait for my first little nieces or newphews!
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- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? The first month was harder than I thought. Mainly because I had a lot of anxiety after the wedding, just about coming down from all the planning. Things are doing much better now.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? I wish we were TTC, but we're waiting a few months.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yup! Just savings.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yup. Still in process -- changed SS, but still waiting on drivers license and bills, etc.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? H is working, so Christmas Eve and morning at my parents', and then when he's out of work, we're going up to MA to his parents' house.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? MOVING out of our teeny apartment, and starting TTCBooks read in 2012: 21/50
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Easy since we already lived together
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Being called Mrs. Husband's last name, I keep truing around looking for my MIL
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yep, opened one up right before we got married
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes-and I am going to get our license and then go to Social Security today and the DMV tomorrow
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? Haven't decided yet
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Working on getting out of debt, start talking about having a family
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- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Pretty easy - he says nothing has changed. We lived together for a couple years before getting married, so really, the only change has been Weeeee, I have a husband!!!! moments
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Nothing really to adjust to... I wish my name would just change itself though...
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes... but have for a couple years now.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes... I'm in the process. My DL and SS are done, but I still have banks/CC/mortgage/professional license/who knows what else.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? We'll do it the same as the last couple years..... Christmas Eve/Morning with my family, then his mom's for lunch (they live close together). Then at some point, we'll make a trip to Houston to see his adult siblings... I think they might do some kind of group Christmas, but I don't know when or where, so we just end up making the rounds down there, or going to one's house and telling the others to come over and see us...
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Hopefully finding a new job and getting settled... Once I do that, then we can think about TTC... but the TTC part probably won't happen in 6 months, just the job part
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Fairly easy! We've lived together for over a year. So, nothing has really changed
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? My new name. When I call places and have to give me name, I always stumble over my last name.
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yep! We opened it Monday after the wedding.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? I am changing it. I have to find some time to get to the DMV to change it. Mailed in the change to the SSA. So hopefully I'll get my card soon.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? We're doing Christmas Eve with my family.
Christmas day morning, it'll be us on our own. Later in the day, we'll be heading to DH's grandma's.
The day after, we'll be going to MIL's for brunch.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Snowmobiling trip in January! The huge suprise party I'm planning for DH's 30th birthday. Our delayed honeymoon
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? New city, new home, new job, new church, being away from my family. It's getting easier now though. H has been WONDERFUL!
- Do you have a joint bank account? Yes we do.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yes and yes.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? We are going back to Houston for Christmas and H's family is celebrating the day after Christmas. It works out well!
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months? Getting settled, spending more time together, possibly going to Alaska to visit BIL & SIL.- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult?
Easy.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to?
Even though we lived together for years before marriage, I do feel a little more pressure brought on by myself to be more 'wife-y'. I don't cook and that's something I want to work on for myself and for my husband.
- Do you have a joint bank account?
Yup - both joint and savings. I still have my old account but once my direct deposit transfers at work I will close it.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet?
Oh yes, I love it.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays?
Making up for last year - we really wanted to wake up on Christmas morning just the two of us but my mom got sick and was in the hospital a few days before Christmas so we had to make an emergency trip to Florida. This year we will visit local family but there are no solid plans.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months?
Graduating from college finally and figuring out what I'm going to do afterward - graduate school or find a job. My husband will be starting his first semester of college so that will be an adjustment. We will also pay off our car loan in the next four or five months - we are also on the Dave Ramsey plan SarahPLiz! So far it has done wonders for us.
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult?
There wasn't really any adjustment period, having lived together a year and a half.
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to?
The only thing that seems weird is getting all the paperwork done for everything. Added H to my dental and vision yesterday and changed him to my beneficiary on my life and core death/dismemberment (depressing, I know, but it's offered free to all employees) and it seems weird to see my H's name there rather than my parents or son.
- Do you have a joint bank account?
We do. The first day we were home after the wedding, we went to my credit union and combined checking accounts and opened two joint savings accounts. We each still have separate checking accounts at another bank so if we want to put our money for gas/groceries/whatever on a card (or squirrel some away for a rainy day) we have a place for that, although we may combine those two (at the same bank) so we have one account there, too.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet?
Changed. Got home from the wedding on Monday, opened bank accounts Tuesday, changed names Wednesday. Still working on getting a few things changed (have to go to the cable company in person - wth?) but legally I've had my married name for 3 1/2 weeks!
- How are you planning on spending the holidays?
We're staying home rather than travelling to see H's family, which makes us sad, but my dad is having surgery on Tuesday and we're staying here to help my mom take care of him. We'll have Christmas at their house but we'll cook the entire meal to give my mom a break. She'll be off work for the next couple weeks at least taking care of him and we don't want to leave her alone so we can swoop in to give her a break when we can. ILs are disappointed but they totally understand. Plus, H and I and my parents will be moving to where his folks live in a year and a half, so they know all holidays after that will always be all together.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months?
Putting as much money into savings as we can and paying off as much of my remaining debt as we can so that we can start figuring out how much house we can afford when we move. SO READY to get out of this place!<a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="D
- Was the adjustment to married life easy or difficult? Adjustment? What adjustment? Now we can get back to our LIVES!
- What's something you're having trouble adjusting to? Trying to figure out our reproductive goals, or lack there of.
- Do you have a joint bank account? We're working on that after the holidays.
- Are you changing your name? If so, have you done it yet? Yeah, but I'm not sure where to start.
- How are you planning on spending the holidays? We will be staying home. Dad's working, so Mom is staying home in Houston. Dave's mom and stepdad are coming in to Lafayette because his grandfather refuses to travel to Jackson anymore for reasons he won't expound upon. My extended family will be having Christmas dinner at my godmother's house, and then we eat again with Dave's dad's family. Yay food.
- What's something you're looking forward to in the next six months?My baby sister turns 21 in February, so Dave and I are road tripping to Lubbock. Oh... and I'm gonna be an aunt. Woot!Big, big like the moon...
The Social Security office! Go down there with your marriage license, your driver's license, and your birth certificate (or your marriage license and passport), fill out a form, and they'll send you a new card with your new name. After 24 hours (in my state, anyway), take your receipt and your current driver's license to the DMV and they'll make you a duplicate with your new name. From there, you use your new license, social, and marriage license to change everything. I made a checklist of everything I could think of (from banks to work email to the cable company to magazine subscriptions) and have been working my way down.
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