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Holidays
Baystate's poll got me thinking about the holidays.
I keep asking my DH what he wants to do about the holidays (aka split the day, or alternate holidays). He keeps saying we can talk about it later, but I am the kind of person that just wants to have a decision then move forward.
Is anyone else dealing with this?
Also what are you getting your DH for the holidays, I got him a nice watch for the wedding and I am kind of out of ideas, so any suggestion would be appreciated!
Re: Holidays
We went to my hometown last year for a few days before Christmas... and got iced in. We ended up staying there for almost a full week, which really stretched it. haha.
Because we didnt' make it back in time to do Christmas with his family last year, we're doing it with them this year. It works out well, because my dad's whole family is doing Christmas on the 26th, and we'll still be here in the Cities. He has to be back to work the morning of the 27th, so I think my siblings (all younger) will hang with us for a few days. Then we'll all go back to Wisconsin on the 28th or so and do Christmas with my mom! I think we counted that we'll have 7 Christmas'es this year?
H's dad
H's mom
H's ex-step mom's family
My mom
My dad
My dad's family
the two of us.
It's exhausting, but my siblings and I have been doing this forever. haha. We also have 5 birthdays the week of Christmas.
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We had a terrible time getting the holidays in order. Mainly because H got screwed and has to work Christmas Eve AND Christmas Day at the hospital. However, he did manage to finagle Dec. 26th off, so the plan is this:
Christmas Eve: My parents' house, we'll open our presents from H and he'll open his presents from us.
Christmas Day: I drop off H in the morning at work and go to my parents' house and open presents with my family, then I pick up H after work and we drive up to MA to have Christmas with his family. We leave in the evening on Dec. 26.
So far I've gotten H two DVD box sets that he wants for Christmas. I'm running out of ideas of what to get him for a more "personal" gift. Argh. I got him a watch last year, though, so I'm trying to find something else nice and meaningful.
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I'm not totally happy about this arrangement (I can only take so much "family time" at once) but we're doing:
Eve:
DH's dad's side of the family at his parents' house
My family's at our close family-friend's house (we've gone every year since I was an infant, these people are closer than my actual extended family)
Day:
Breakfast & presents at our house
DH's parents' house for presents, etc.
My parents' for presents, etc.
DH's dad's side (again..) at his aunt's house
DH's mom's side
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I'm just annoyed that I have a small family and his family is huge and we have to hang out with his dad's side of the family twice in two days.
I am happy that we are close to figuring this out, phew!
H's family usually does Christmas Eve and his sister has invited us to their house, so we will do that. For Christmas Day, I think we will have his mom and my parents at our house.
Now we just have to make sure we have cleaned up and organized our stuff by then! There is still wedding stuff all over and we are trying to get H situated/moved in.
For gift ideas, I bought him some video games he's hinted at wanting and a gift card towards purchasing the watch he's had his eye on forever (I started the gift card idea last Christmas, it's just too much to buy all at once for me.) I'll probably also get him some running gear and maybe we'll gift each other trail running shoes that will come in handy for the honeymoon.
This year we ran out of vacation time because of the wedding, so we are spending Christmas at home with just the two of us.
I'm not sure if I will have to deal with this issue. FI does not speak to his dad, and his mom is on the out's too. He said that if she ever wants to see him, she will have to drive to my parents' hometown when we go back to visit my parents. It's a mess. I plan to fly home for Christmas next year, and we'll probably visit his mom at my insistence -- just not on Christmas or Christmas Eve. Drama, drama, drama!
Anyways, I'm getting him a fancy smancy gaming keyboard to go along with his World of Warcraft expansion pack ...
We don't really have this issue since H's family doesn't live here and doesn't celebrate Christmas...
But, we have some issues with my family every year... 1. They really really really want us to spend all the holidays with them (Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, etc). 2. They don't actually do anything on any of these days. On Thanksgiving they usually go to a restaurant, like a French restaurant, and there's no turkey or stuffing or yams
and they don't get a Christmas tree or go to church
or plan any dinner or outing. 3. And I don't get along that well with
my mom anyway.
We don't really do Christmas gifts or decor, so it's mostly a religious and food holiday for us. Another couple invited us for Christmas Eve, so we'll probably go to Evensong (5:00 mass) and then over to their place. Christmas Day maybe a hike, weather permitting, and then dinner at home with some more friends.
As far gifts, I would keep it small. The wedding is still close and all that was kind of overwhelming, so I don't think a big Christmas is necessary.