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NER stupid vent: annoying Ex's
My ex-FI and I don't speak, which is fine. But when something exciting happens in his life he goes out of his way to make sure I know it, which is annoying. He is apparently a father now and 2 seconds after the kid was born he joined facebook and friended my sorority sisters and old roommates. He hasn't spoken to any of them since 2001 when we broke up. And he's older than I am by 4 yrs so he never went to school with any of them anyway. I'm surprised he ever remembered their names. But none of that matters when there's news to share right? So of course they all had to email/call me when his friend request showed up - complete with a picture of him holding his new son. He did something similar when he got married, with this stupid one-issue e-newsletter he created so he could email everyone he ever knew - except me, but he included my sister.
Please tell me a worse ex story so I realize mine isn't that bad!
Re: NER stupid vent: annoying Ex's
EW! what a creep-oid. I hope one of your old friends tells him he is being a big fat loser.
Gosh, he is beyond obvious, isn't he? And seems to still have a little somethin'-somethin' for you, no?
That has to be one of the most awesome things I have ever heard - it actually made me laugh out loud
LOL @ Major. Klassy.
LMW- Do we have the same (ex) friends?!
Well there's the classic of my college sweetheart sleeping with two of my sorority sisters within a month after we broke up (we had been together a year and a half)... and inviting others to come over and play with his roommate's new puppy... and generally perpetuating a rilvalry between the two chapters, which is fraternity couldn't really give a flip about but girls in my chapter were very polarized on.
But I shrug that off as college drama. The fact that he's doing so now is super lame.
Actually, there's another frat guy, a year older than me, whom I kinda know. He dated one of my sisters for a long time, and they were always very tumultuous. One day he friended me. And I noticed through the minifeed that he'd recently become friends with a lot of our sorority sisters, girls who definitely didn't know him as well as I did (and even I didn't know him that well). So before friending him, I asked my sister who used to date him. I figured he was trying to be a douche and prove something to her. Sure enough, he was jealous because she had more facebook friends than he did. Ignore.
But I'll share my story anyway.
One of my ex's, with whom I had a VERY rocky relationship, and to whom I hadn't spoken in years, randomly called me at work one day. (My old firm had all of our contact info on its web site, including phone numbers, and it was pretty easy to find with a google search of my name.) That was completely random and surprising. He was in the military, and he called me to tell me he was going to Iraq. My response was something like, "Um, that's nice? Be safe." I don't know if he was calling every single person he knew before he went overseas, or if I was particularly lucky. So strange. I think he may have actually called me twice.
OMG Marquis - a guy did that to me too - with a sorority sister. Just one though. And I only half-seriously dated him 8 or 9 months so it wasn't as bad as your story at all. I didn't live in the house at the time but the skank he hooked up with (and later married) did and every time I went to the house his stupid car was parked out front. A constant reminder. The girl he slept with was really popular and I wasn't so no one really cared about what he did. I was so pissed I almost quit the sorority. Lesson learned: Real, loyal friends aren't bought by dues.
Gold Medal for you Lyss. That's horrible.
Okay, so, another one of my sorority sisters dated this guy her freshman year (before I knew her), and he just disappeared and joined the marines. Sophomore year she dated this total douche, and luckily they broke up. Then the summer before Junior year, she and the first guy started a phone relationship while he was over in Iraq. I could tell that she was emotionally in it, but it wasn't official. She definitely *dated* other guys fall semester. Then she got a phone call from his mother letting her know where he was going and that he'd want her to know. Then he came back that February and proposed. They got married in March, on her spring break.
Not exactly a douchy ex story, but yours reminded me of that. It is another crazy sorority sister story, though!
I have a super-tight family line, and the first girl he hooked up with was the latest addition of our line. I was pretty popular (and thus also vehemently hated by some) in the chapter and the Greek community, so everyone had an opinion. I was more upset at the girls who let it happen than the girl herself because when I had suggested a week prior that she should contact him about how to throw a party she was against going near him, so I knew this was not necessarily something she intended to do (she had a real drinking problem). People (even people who hated me) were absolutely furious at her and calling for her to be black-balled. But I got over it and calmed everyone else down.
That was Sunday. Wednesday was Greek Night, and one of the sisters who let the first incident happen (she had been my #1 choice for my second little the semester prior and was considered my 'fake little') was giggling and flirting with my ex, and I called her out on it. My little, who was Greek Night Chair, yelled at us to not fight at Greek Night, so I let it go. Thursday night that sister had sex with my ex. There was an eye witness (her roommate, also a sister). The sister denied. I got my ex to basically confess (they hadn't coordinated their lie). The sister still denied. Then she was put in the looney bin. As in, the psych ward.
I think I'm one of the only people who had more drama in college than in high school (where I was also part of a large group of girl friends - not a gender thing, just a crazy NYU thing).
I don't have a horrible ex story, but just now, I got back from having coffee with a boyfriend I had when I was 18, and had not seen in 16 years. I looked him up on FB a few weeks back.
It was fun talking about all our old mutual friends, but it was sad to see that he was about the same person he was at 19; directionless, unmotivated and his hygiene had not improved. The only thing that had changed is he's now a pothead. Still charming, same old laugh, but I feel sad for all the wasted potential.
I had an ex's girlfriend emailing me for advice. I actually stayed in halfway decent contact with that ex as we'd dated a long time and mostly parted amicably, but it was weird hearing from her. She'd gotten my address off an email that was sent to a bunch of people.
Your crazy sorority stories confirm my reasoning that led me never to be a part of any large group of girls. I can't handle that drama.
OMG!! and LMAO at your last line!! Good work. I hope you hit him hard.