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So help me out...
What do you do when you and your H have a HUGE disagreement and neither person wants to budge??
This is like a super serious issue. Adam wants kids ASAP. I want to wait a few months. He actually got pretty upset with me the other night when I picked up my birth control. He keeps telling me "what's a few months? Why not start now?" He won't listen to my logic about how he's not working full-time because of his sciatica so throwing a baby into the mix probably is not the best idea right now. He keeps telling me, "well, if you get pregnant right now, I'll go out and work THREE jobs." Dude, you can't even handle ONE right now.
HELP MEEEEEEE!!!!!!
Re: So help me out...
I'm sorry you guys are arguing about something. My advice would to make an appointment with a counselor. It really helps to have a 3rd person in the mix who is objective and hears both sides of the story. They can also give you some tools on how to better communicate w/ eachother. It's hard when you are arguing about something like that when no one is technically "wrong" but are just very opinionated on either side of the argument.
*hugs*
LAAAME I hate it when guys don't see that we are always right.
fvckers.
Maybe tell him he is your husband and right now he is your number one concern, you want to make sure he is totally healthy before bringing on a stressful situation like having a baby. You want him to be super healthy so he can enjoy being a daddy to the fullest.
This. Even if he really wants them; if you aren't ready to have a baby then he should respect that.
I don't have much experience with this, because Dave and I are pretty much on the same page with everything so we've never had that kind of disagreeement.
However. You are right, and he is wrong.
gavel
Honestly, BOTH parents need to be on the same page. I mean, you could start trying now and not get pregnant for months anyway, how is he prepared to deal with that? (That is NOT reasoning for you to start now. You shouldn't start until you know it's what you want).
Tell him that you are 100% on board with baby making...
...when HE is the one to carry it for 40 weeks.
Did you say "Adam the thought of having a baby scares me to death and I'm just not ready yet!!!!" ??
Take out "Dave" and put in "Matt," and this is what I would say, too.
Having a baby is such a huge, irrevocably life-altering thing that both partners need to be in agreement. It's one thing for him to try to persuade you, but he needs to understand that pressuring you into a step that you're not ready for (for whatever reason) is a very bad idea.
Listen to his points, acknowledge his point of view, and remind him that you aren't closed off to the idea of kids-- you're just objecting to trying to create one right now.
TWo months!?!? Two months is nothin. He needs to shut his pie hole lol.
"***, we can start trying in TWO MONTHS. No sooner. TWO MONTHS!!!! The end." That's what I'd say lol.
Except it'd be like 6 years instead of two months.
'Kay, I got one!!!
If you get knocked up now, you will give birth in September.
Meaning that you will be HUGELY pregnant ALL SUMMER. In ALABAMA.
Wait two months.
I hate the stupid swear filter crap. I never remember.
B!TCH!!!!!
tell him you don't want a gimpy baby daddy so he has to get better first lolz
meh, tell him you want to have a pre-conception appt with your doctor which you "can't get for another 2 months...."
You should see a doctor first though. They'll hook you up with prenatals and tell you what you should be doing and crap.
Which leads me to a question... do you guys use prescription prenatals, or over the counter prenatals?
Yeah, but you won't be 8 1/2 months pregnant in August. My cousin had her baby in September, and she was massive and miserable at her baby shower.
If you get pregnant right away in February, you'd still be pretty big by the end of summer, but not 8-months-along-get-this-kid-out-of-me-NOW huge.
stu- i totally get your reasoning of "i'm just not ready yet". Thats me too and luckily Jay is currently on the same page.
LIke the other girls, two months is nothing. Tell Adam you both have to be on the same page for this and YOU aren't ready, end of story. Having a baby is a big decision and life changing!!!!
In the summer we saw at least one really prego woman everyday. I assume they timed things so they wouldn't be giving birth in the winter when you don't know how the roads will be!
Two months is nothing. He can wait. Tell him you're not ready at this very moment and that he needs to respect that. It's 2 more months you'll have to yourselves, and 2 more months for him to get healthy and ready to prepare and care for baby.
Yep! It's 60 days. Sixty. Days.
Make him a paper countdown chain. It'll make him feel better to watch it shrink.