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Wedding Gift Question!
Sort of out of left field, when we were planning our wedding my mother said that she REALLY didn't want to do a speech, and suggested my one Uncle do it instead. I said no, as I am not close to that Uncle, and quite frankly don't really like him and think he's pretty shady. Anyway, my parents ended up speaking themselves and my said Uncle, his wife and their two teen/pre-teen kids attended the wedding and had a great time from the sounds of things.
Their gift was a $100 cheque. Flash forward one month, and my H received a notice from the bank that the cheque bounced. Luckily they didn't charge us anything for it.
Since then we have heard nothing from my Uncle or his family about the gift, even though I have them all on Facebook. At the very least I was expecting to receive an e-mail or private message letting me know that they were sorry but were having money problems or something, anything really.
I feel like I should say something to my mother but am not sure, and now am also uncomfortable about going to Christmas with them because I know I will be tempted to say something as their kids are always wearing expensive clothes and have new laptops and cell phones etc. etc. etc. (their daughter sold her brand new IPad on Facebook the other day for $400 so that she could buy a laptop instead. She's 11.)
Anyway, just looking for some feedback or opinions and a place to rant. Whoo.
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Re: Wedding Gift Question!
I would leave it alone. If they gave you a blender, and it didn't work, you wouldn't mention it to them with the expectation that they do something about it, would you? (The answer is no.)
Chalk it up to irresponsibility and let it go.
Why would you tell your mom? This has nothing to do w/ her.
They know it bounced. Leave it at that. They'll either give you another one, or they won't. But this isn't anything to bring up.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I would not say anything to them. It is not worth starting anything!
However, just so you know, we had a check bounce from a couple who attended our wedding. We were very surprised. DH went to the bank, which they also use. The teller checked their account, saw they had the funds, and cashed the check. The fees were also waived for us. Don't know if this is an option for you, but it worked for us.
If you say nothing, you're on the moral high ground. Shady Uncle and family are the ones who look like jerks.
If you say anything to them or even to your mom, you become a judgmental, entitled brat.
So say nothing. If you can't muster up sympathy for people who obviously have distorted values when it comes to money, then satisfy yourself with feeling smug about the whole incident.
Just because they have nice clothes and expensive phones/electronics, doesn't mean they can afford them. They may very well be living well outside their means, and do a good job of hiding it. (And if this is the case, explains why the check bounced.)
Like PP said, if it bounced, they know it bounced, and they know which check it is. If they give you another next time you see them, tell them thank you, and don't mention what happened to thefirst one. If they don't give you another one, just let it go.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.