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Vent - DH's friends
DH's friends can't make plans to save their lives. It makes me INSANE. There have been times when I've tried to plan a party, and told them about it 2 weeks in advance, and they can't commit. Ask them one week out, they still can't commit, but yet 2 or 3 days out, they already have other plans. Yeah, they actually did that.
They are also pretty consistent about inviting us out 15 minutes before they do something. I get that they are last minute people, but this is slightly rediculous. There was even a time when DH and I had sat down to dinner at a restaurant, and right before we ordered, they texted that they were going to another restaurant and wanted to invite us. DH seriously sat there for 5 minutes trying to decide. I was livid.
I texted DH and suggested something for us to do tonight, and his response was basically that he hadn't heard from his friends yet, but my idea sounded "okay".
I know this is 95% a DH problem. He needs to suck it up and tell them we already have plans. But he's afraid that if he does that, even just once, he wont' get called next time they go out. And sometimes he's mad at them for pulling this, but yet he never stands up to them. Makes me so mad. I like to plan, and I try to let go and be more spontaneous, but tonight I am going to the store on my way home, and if we are staying in, I need to pick up some things for dinner, and I don't want to get them if we're not eating them tonight.
I'm still mad, but vent over. Thanks for reading.
Re: Vent - DH's friends
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Same here, and this is me with DH's friends. He, too, has a big group of guy friends and few are in relationships. I honestly get really jealous sometimes when they invite him to do something without me and the baby. Not like poker nights, but like- they are having a Christmas dinner next Friday night together and I am not invited. I feel like the little sister that just wants to hang out with the big kids. If they were to invite me, I would find a way to go.
But yeah. I would be mad too.
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I wonder this too. I know my DH wouldn't go to something like this if I weren't invited. Poker night, sure, but a Christmas dinner? That's a little weird.
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I also find it really weird. 8-10 grown men, getting together, without their spouses/gf's/children, to a potluck dinner with a gift exchange? Mmmk. DH knows I'm jealous, but it's not like I'm the only one not invited. These are his high school friends so he doesn't see it as weird that they get together, just them. They've been doing this Christmas dinner thing since before we met; before any of them had girlfriends, etc.