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Comments about DH and I not having kids yet

So, I was at my mom's tonight and we were looking at two Christmas cards-one formmy aunt and one from my cousin. Both have pictures of only my cousin's baby. Very cute, but I said, "why not have pics of the family?" "It's just the baby?" Well..

My younger sister who just got engaged to her first and onyl bf, said, "well when you have kids you will be then same way." Uh, no I won't-I explained that people whould never loose themselves when they have kids. She said you mean IF, not when you have kids.

 My mom, said uh, you mean when, then sister mumbles, no IF.

She has made snarky comments before, like bc DH and I are "gasp" 28 w/out kdis, she, who is 22 and barely engaged, can comment?

 

WWYD?

Re: Comments about DH and I not having kids yet

  • Ignore her. She's a knowitall kid. Not worth your energy or your concern.
  • uugh, yeah, just a brat....don't let it bother you or she'll keep it up...just when she has kids talk about how awesome it is not to be tied down
  • Thanks-it's hard because DH and I want kids, but I am sooooo over people acting like/making comments about us not having kids...I mean, I am 28! Leave me the F alone!

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  • I wouldn't say anything about it....until she gets divorced. Then I'd be sure to bring it up.

    "So, how's it going for you and the kids, all alone?"

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  • I don't have my pics on the Christmas cards.  My kids are a lot cuter than I am!
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  • I don't see anything wrong with the conversation. But then, I don't know your story that makes you very sensitive about such conversation.
  • Ok i'm 26 with 2 kids my sister is 30 with 4 kids and my brother is 34 with 1 kids who is barley a year old ( the youngest between my sister and i are 5 born a month apart).   I'm the baby of my family and just figured when they are ready for kids they had them.  I joked with my brother about it but made sure he knew it was a joke.  I think your sister may have some jelousy issues. when you want them go for it you and dh have to raise the baby not her.  Personally i do just send pics of the kids but thats my choice.  just ignore her or tell her to back off and mean it and back it up.  Good luck.
  • Ugh, I hate cards with pictures only of the kids.
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  • I've noticed with my friends when their kids are babies/toddlers they just put the baby's picture on the card. Then as the kids get older they've been doing pics of the whole family. It's preference, I think, more than anything.

    As for your sister, I'd just ignore her, or just to mind her own GD business. I can't stand young people who think having kids is a race against time, rather than a blessing to the family that comes when the time is right.

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  • She's young and annoying. Ignore her. As for the pics, though, I always said that, too. And I still prefer pics with the whole family. BUT...taking a pic of the three of us (god forbid we try to get the dogs in, too) is almost impossible. If I can get a good shot of just the kid, I consider it a major success.  As soon as he's old enough to sit still and look a the camera, we'll go back to whole family photos.
  • What 22 year old doesn't think that they know it all?  Ignore.
  • I'm going to start sending people pictures of only my cats with the holiday cards.
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    I'm going to start sending people pictures of only my cats with the holiday cards.

     

    This! We have two dogs/two cats.....good idea....

     

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  • Luckily my family has never bugged me about having kids yet - we all wait until our 30s.  But I married into a family of early reproducers.  When I first got married at 25 (which was already "behind" as far as ILs were concerned), I all of a sudden had 2 sets of very eager future grandparents and 2 sets of future greatgrandparents on his side.  I addressed baby questions right off the bat with, "I'm not sure if I want kids, but I definitely don't want them before my 30s."  That has pretty much shut all of them up for the last 2.5 years anyway, and now they will all be pleasantly surprised if we start a family before then.
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