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Work dilema
My boss called me tonight to see how I'd feel about working in the new office once it opens at the end of January. Well, it was more like telling me that's what was going to happen, but we're having a discussion about it. The new office is 45 min from my house. While I'm definitely not opposed to working there, I said that I'd like a small cost of living increase to cover my gas which would run me between $150-200 a month once I start driving in every day. They're open to that as well, and he mentioned maybe $2000-2500 increase that he would talk about with the owner of the company.
He also brought up that they're considering hiring DH for something and that the commute wouldn't be that bad if we were both making it. I rebutted saying that it would still be a good chunk of change that we're not spending right now.
I wasn't planning on having this convo until January, when I'd feel more comfortable bringing up my pregnancy. I was also going to add that we'd have to pay for daycare as well if we both worked there instead of us working out some sort of alternate schedule/stay at home situation. For now I left that out since my boss is also my MIL's boss and I don't want her to find out from him.
Do you think I should add this into negotiations? The owner of the company has said some sexist things in the past about liking to hire women that are older than me because they're less likely to need maternity leave. He's also said some things about a lot of the women being overweight in our office. Basically he's kind of sexist and very opinionated. I'm afraid that if I get too demanding that I may be out of job. I know he can't fire me for being pregnant, but he made up my job so I feel like he can just as easily "unmake" my job for any reason.
Re: Work dilema
I would not say anything as of yet if you are not comfortable.
I would wait until you are further into your pregnancy to bring this up. The further along you are, the less of a chance he will be able to "make up" a reason to fire you.
I agree with Alyssa, I'd wait a bit longer.
What a douche.
I agree, but if he's that much of an a$$ I wouldn't put it past him to make up a reason to get rid of you.
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I agree w Vikki here.
Do NOT say anything until you are comfortable in doing so.
Agreed. Good luck on the negotiations!