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Looks like we're traveling for Christmas after all...
...and I'm not particularly happy about it. I guess I just need a minute to vent :-(
I was so looking forward to us spending our first married Christmas at home, and hosting an "open house" for friends and family. We talked about this more than once since last Christmas, and all appeared to be set. Imagine my disappointment when H told me that he wanted to still visit family after we have dinner this Christmas. Seriously? After I've spent the day in my warm, toasty house, eating and relaxing...to have to get dressed and go somewhere in the frigid cold that we're expected to have???
Why couldn't we visit them on Christmas Eve or the day after, as we had talked about? Why can't we have our one holiday? I am just so ticked off. I don't think I'm being unreasonable. When I posed these questions to H, he just said that he's just used to being with his family on Christmas. I know - they are joined at the hip. But that still doesn't make me feel any better.
So now, change of plans. Where I was looking forward to having my first married Christmas at home, now it looks like I'll be up again, visiting first my folks, then his Dad, and then up to Hanover, PA for the day. I'm sure it'll be a nice time. I am really close to his SIL and Brother whose house we're going to for dinner. It's not them. It's just that I was hoping...oh never mind. Maybe next year...
Thanks for letting me vent, girls...
Re: Looks like we're traveling for Christmas after all...
That sucks. I would be little mad, too, especially since he pulled a switcheroo on you. DH is used to being with his family, too, but he was willing to forgo that this year and understands that we are our own family now. Hopefully your DH will come to realize that soon.
Are you sure you can't convince him to do visits on Christmas Eve so you don't have to the leave house on Christmas day? I think that would be a good compromise since you'll still get to see family, but you two can have your time at home. It's just an idea.
He really won't agree to do Christmas Eve instead??? The thought of having to leave the house after Christmas dinner when you're all full and warm (and after a couple holiday cocktails if you were at my house!) sounds miserable. Sorry this came up but I guess you have to make the best of it.
I had to have Christmas with my SIL's in-laws last year in the middle of nowhere last year with crappy food and no booze (sorry, I enjoy a drink with my holidays, so sue me!) and I went in with such a bad attitude that it was terrible. It still wasn't FUN, but I would have had a much better time if I had been a little more positive about it. Hopefully you can do a better job than me. *hugs*
Thank you so much! I really needed an understanding word :-) I don't know why I'm taking this so hard. I wanted this Christmas to focus on us, on our new family. Making our tradition.
I did ask him that if we do have Christmas with family (and it looks like we will be), to please try to keep the visits reasonable, so that we can still have some time at home together. I had planned the meal and was so excited about it... and now, sigh. Ugh.
Well, it's going to be a super busy day with a lot of driving and traveling. First, a half hour to my Parents, visiting for an hour or so. Then another hour to his Dad's, visiting for an hour or so. And then, another hour's drive from there to his Brother's for a visit and dinner. And then the long drive back home. I guess it's the travel that I'm looking forward to the least...I'm trying to put a happy face on it, because I don't want t be sour puss and put a damper on the holiday, but, man!
I know! This was supposed to be the original plan. That we visit both our folks on Christmas Eve, and spend Christmas together. He has never spent a Christmas without his family, and yes, I was hoping that he would understand that we are our own family now. And it's not like I don't want to see them, just not on Christmas day.
Now, my Christmas day dinner is pretty much scrapped. There is no way I'm getting dressed and leaving home after a good meal (and yes, cocktails! LOL), so we will likely end up spending the day on the road and visiting. I guess I will have to have my dinner on Christmas Eve. I guess I should take this better. I'm just so disappointed. I really, really, appreciate your support today, friends :-))
Aww shucks, Stacy! :-( I'm sorry. I know it's frustrating when plans change and don't go the way you originally planned.
I guess at least you can make your meal on Chrsitmas Eve now, and plan to be warm and toasty without leaving the house that day. Is there any chance both sets of families can come to your house starting next year so you don't have to worry about this again in years to come but can still see your families?
You know, Cin - I did tell H that next year we are not traveling on the Holiday - period. I'm doing this for him this year, but I totally feel like if we see anyone on Christmas day next year, they will be coming to our home. My Mom and Dad are both the oldest of their clans, and so always have a full house. But Mom/Pop are chill, and don't feel like I need to be there on the day of...It's his family who are not flexible with their "tradition", unless is suits their benefit ( referencing earlier rant about last Christmas!).
I'm going to try not to be a major B about this, cuz I love to see H happy, but this has got to be it. I'll be forcing a smile this year as it is :-)