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Marquis
Your sorority was crazy! That girl seriously got shipped to the looney bin?
I have a similar story but the girl didn't go to the looney bin (although she should have).
There was a girl in my sorority that went nuts my senior year. I can't remember why exactly - it wasn't due to a breakup. I think her home life was messed up over the summer. Anyway she convinced herself she had Aids. Even though she was a virgin, even though the guys she messed around with didn't have Aids, even though she was tested 3x for Aids and it was negative every time. That all didn't matter. I'll never forget, one day I was getting ready for class in the house bathroom and this girl was in the shower. She pulled back the curtain (exposing herself) and asked me if her backne (acne on her back) was a sign of Aids. 
She also decided to cut her own hair off herself and broke down crying half way through and didn't finish it. So half her head had long hair and half was short to her scalp. She ended up flunking our senior year and had to repeat it. She ended up graduating and moving to Las Vegas where she does God only knows what. It was really sad. Sometimes funny, but mostly just sad.
Any other good stories you can share? I love talking about girl drama. : )
Re: Marquis
That IS sad! ...and awkward.
Yeah, the girl said a quack doctor of hers from her homestate prescribed anti-psychotics instead of anti-depressents, which made her psychotic.
*shrug*
Then there's my twin (pledge sister with the same big), with whom I was really close, but who was also close with pscyho girl and my ex, so we kind of drifted apart. Anyway, she kept insisting she was a virgin, even when she wasn't. The first incident, I'll give her. Unduly pressured, etc. But 4 or 5 partners later and she's still making that claim...not safe.
But yeah, Catholic, questionable parenting, etc., was a cutter in hs but her parents didn't believe in therapy. She was getting it, though, but was paranoid about the paper trail. Anyway, she moved off to Las Vegas and became a singer out there (Jubilee - she was a showgirl). Another sister in our family line went out there and reported that she was crazier than ever. Very sad.
That's the sister who flipped out when I didn't make her a bridesmaid. She cried to my little (the one who actually has issues with her/never liked her but she doesn't know that) about how I ruined her life.
Uhhh....
That is some awesome drama.?
The biggest drama in my house when my 2 closest friends (not my big or even in my family) were kicked out for being "trampy." They were trampy but not any more than half the house. One friend was on probation for something super stupid (she wasn't popular either and pissed off one of the popular seniors which was the real reason she was kicked out) and when you're on probation you're not allowed to drink. That lasted approx 24 hours and my friend was drinking anyway. Got caught and the seniors seriously had a mock trial where people presented evidence against her and then the house voted on her fate. It was so ridiculous and dramatic for no reason. I'm sure you can imagine how much crying and brouhaha there was. At the same time the seniors thought it would be a good time to put my 2nd friend on trial (even though she was never on probation) and vote on her fate too. They both got kicked out and I was left friendless except for my big sis. It was only a few months later that one of those seniors stole my boyfriend. Now that I type this out I judge myself for not quitting the sorority then.?
I ended up making new friends there who I'm much closer with than I ever was with the 2 booted ones, but still. ?
Crazy!
Yeah, so, my last semester senior year (for context: my college bf and I broke up beginning of fall semester senior year, so this is a few months after he slept with 2 of my sisters...which, btw, he did while he had a girlfriend, the biological little sister of one of his frat brothers), I was social chair. I had been planning on having 'official' dry events as well as 'unofficial' events (traditional mixers). But after elections, the president (who was trying to keep everything on the up-and-up after she accidentally hazed the spring class the year prior as pledge mom) had us sign agreements that we would uphold the ideals, blah blah blah. And when I sign my name to something, I hold myself to that.
So, no wet mixers. Anyway, I tried to set something up with a number of different organizations, and managed to swing dry events with the gay fraternity, another sorority, the engineering society, and the fraternity I was hanging out with at the time (my fsck buddy/sophomore boy toy was the social chair). I also had been in contact with my ex's fraternity. My ex's bff was the social chair, and that kid was also the boyfriend of one of my sisters*.
Anyway, I tried to set up something we could do without alcohol, and we were almost set on playing pool, and if people there happened to go out drinking afterwards, well, I wouldn't have anything to do with that.
But then he said something along the lines of 'forgive me if we want to do something dare I say fun'. When I presented that to the e-board (I was also alumnae liaison at the time), my little went on a feminist rant, and the rest of eboard was nodding along with her.
So, I wrote him back with a snarky response. Which, of course, got me j-boarded b/c by doing so they apparently decided to stop mixing with us for 2 years (yeah, right, like they actually hold themselves to those votes). And you know, once you get j-boarded, you're never not found guilty. It didn't help that the girlfriend of the frat's social chair was on j-board. I had to say an apology and present on e-mail etiquette, lol. The apology was difficult b/c I didn't really feel like I was in the wrong. So I quoted the bible (one of our ritual verses): 'Return no one evil for evil but overcome evil with good'. And saying basically that I was wrong for stooping to his level. I got a couple emails from girls saying they were impressed with my apology and they admired the strength I showed to make it. I replied to say I was forced to apologize and they basically said, 'well duh'.
But ya know, through all the shit, I really do think I helped to make that chapter better. We were a tiny little nothing colony when I joined, and now we're the 2nd biggest on campus with an excellent reputation for NOT hazing, and all sorts of other things. As a member of the advisory board, I'm still rather involved, so I still take credit. :P
But yeah, I hated membership reviews, and we had way too many of them. They were never successful, though. Our chapter as a whole is far too compassionate.
I still insist that it's not a girl thing, though. It's a crazy thing and a low self-esteem thing. Girls with healthy self-esteems don't sleep with their friend's exboyfriend and then lie about it. Girls with healthy self-esteems don't get upset when a fraternity won't mix with them. Girls with healthy self-esteems don't need alcohol to interact with people. Ugh. Girls with low self-esteem really tried their darndest to make my senior year miserable. But it wasn't thanks to my sane sisters, my bff (the biggest frat douche you've ever met), and my boytoy (also a good friend). So ha.
*They broke up a year later, and she and I have since bonded over being ex's and realizing how much better off we are now. Also noting how that fraternity made them worse people.
Ding ding ding!