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*Anasara*
I really have kept my comments to myself for years about you, but this holiday season, i can't take that siggy again.
You are not the only one who has been trying for YEARS to have the one thing that seems to come easy to many others. There are many girls on this board who have suffered miscarriage after miscarriage, and seeing your siggy doesn't help them either. Or nesties who are currently going thru IUI and IVF who really don't want to see your "bitter barren uterus" when they have their own they need to deal with.
i know what you are going through all too well, but please be sensitive to others. If girls who are pregnant need to, then people who are bitter about their situations need to as well.
I hope you can open your heart to see the things you are BLESSED with this holiday season and not focus on what you don't have.
Re: *Anasara*
my comments have to deal with your bitterness. i'm on year 3 of trying and you don't see me all ho hum about everything baby related. when someone gets pregnant i am HAPPY for them, because it's a blessing. no matter if it's an accident or they tried like hell to have that child.
I wasn't trying to be rude, but i wanted you to know that the siggy offends people on the board.
Stressing about it all doesn't help the situation at all.
I guess i'm a half glass full kinda gal. have been my whole life.
I'm not on this board often anymore, so I don't know if I should even be commenting or offering my opinion, but here it goes...
Everyone deals with difficult situations differently. Some people fake happiness, some people are bitter, some people remove themselves from the situation (which is what I did, hence why i'm not on alot). so I don't have a "problem" with someone being overly happy, bitter or whatever.
What I DO have a problem with is outwardly offending someone else. I have to say that when I opened up your post and saw your siggy pic I was APPALLED. Now i'm all about freedom of speech, etc., and i'm not saying you can or can't post something. However now that someone has come right out and said it was offensive to them, and you outright say you won't remove it, THAT'S what I have a problem with. I would never knowingly offend someone, and if I did I would try to right the situation.
The sig pic IS offensive and in my opinion is in no way considered to be comic relief at all...and that's coming from someone with a pretty sick personality at times!
People can/will be offended by nearly anything. I've even gotten pms about mine being offensive b/c Norah has an iv in her head.
ftr, I have no problems with the sig, find it amusing and, like most sigs, see that it's there b/c she likes it, not to piss off the interwebz.
You see that she makes a post, you know you don't like her sig, scroll past it - it's not like she posts 28486times a day on this board.
Honestly, I don't see why this post was made - a pm would have gotten your opinion across Patty. This post makes it seem like you're trying to get other people riled up over it to justify your feelings.I'm not riling people up. I didn't PM cause you don't get notified with a PM. I'm not trying to get people on my side, i'm saying how i feel. that's all. as i said, i didn't say it to be rude. I've had a crap ton of FB message since this post thanking me for something they didn't have the balls to say.
and just as you said, if you didn't like my post, you could have scrolled past it as well.
imagine having a miscarriage and opening her post and seeing that. Not really the kind of christmas cheer i would want to see going through all that.
notification of pms or not - you can send one and then post that you sent it.
I've had 2 m/c. The sig still doesn't offend me.
There are women on these boards going through m/c, health issues, IF, family issues every day - are you implying that anything that anyone finds offensive be removed?
I personally find it offensive lately when I see healthy babies in people sigs. Silly, yes, but why should they be able to show of healthy kids when other people can't/don't have healthy kids. I'm happy they've been blessed with a healthy child, but really, why should I (or anyone with a child who isn't healthy, or that can't have children, or that doesn't want children) have to see that?
Like I said, people can & will find something/anything offensive. I think there were other ways for you to voice your opinion and whether you were trying to inflame the board or not, you put it out there and, imo, it came off as you trying to rile people up.