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What would you do?

You and your husband have a dog that you adopted.  The dog has a couple of issues, but nothing you can't work with.  The dog likes the wife...not the husband.  The husband says, in an argument, you pick me or the dog.  What do you do?
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Re: What would you do?

  • By the way...this is not me  :)
    My baby girl is a married woman...and now my baby girl HAS a baby girl. Time unfolds in such an amazing way. I've been blessed!
  • How long has the dog been adopted, and when you say that Dog doesn't like DH, what does that mean?  Growling/snarling? Chasing/biting?  Cowering/shying away?
  • More than a year.  The dog apparently has possessive issues if you let him on the bed.  If you try to get him off, he growls and shows teeth.  If you yell at him he growls back.  So instead of working with the dog, the guy yells at the dog and then gets angry when the dog growls back.  I mean, if you know what someone's issues are...why push the buttons?
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  • Husband and wife are having obvious communication issues, and there has to be more to this silly dog problem. I've never heard of a marriage ending over a dog. That being said, if they can't talk it out, then the dog has to go. But I doubt that will help because then the wife will resent the husband. They need counseling IMHO.
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  • Counseling and dog behavior training they they BOTH attend.
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  • For some reason my edit is not working...*that they both attend

    It will probably show up now...

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  • The dog needs training, big time.  Yeah, the husband shouldn't be yelling at it--but I've noticed most humans are jerks in that regard.  Why hasn't wife taken the dog to training or brought someone in?  How long has the dog been behaving like this?

    And yeah, there are definitely other issues going on. 

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  • IMO, husband is provoking the dog by yelling at him, and probably making the dog's issues worse. Husband should take the dog to obedience classes or training or something to work on the dog's issues AND learn how to properly discipline a dog without scaring it/making it defensive.

    Are the issues with possessiveness only occurring when the dog is allowed on the bed, or was that just an example? If they are, maybe the dog just wants to feel "in control" of its sleeping place and should have its own bed somewhere else and not be allowed on the couple's bed.

  • Wife has taken the dog to obediance...husband won't go.  The dog mostly has the bed/territory problem...but H likes the idea of snuggling with the dog on the bed while watching TV.  W has tried to keep the dog off the bed, cause she knows it's an issue.  I think he's looking for something to be ugly about...
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  • "Me or the dog" isn't the only option... you need to work with the dog and the husband to work it out.  
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  • imageMuffin'sMom:
    ...but H likes the idea of snuggling with the dog on the bed while watching TV...
    He likes the idea of snuggling with a dog who wants to bite his arms off?  Ok, maybe not bite off his arms, but clearly dislikes him.
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  • imageMuffin'sMom:
    Wife has taken the dog to obediance...husband won't go.  The dog mostly has the bed/territory problem...but H likes the idea of snuggling with the dog on the bed while watching TV.  W has tried to keep the dog off the bed, cause she knows it's an issue.  I think he's looking for something to be ugly about...

    I think you hit the nail on the head with that last statement...

    I'm seeing multiple solutions, but the H seems to be refusing them all and issuing an ultimatum instead.

  • Talked to my friend today.  Her H agreed to get a trainer to come to the house.  Hopefully the trainer can get everyone on the same page.  He's a great dog.

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