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Do you ever...
...have a hard time getting excited about people you know getting engaged or married? Like you want to say "yah? so what?" or "um, RUNNNNN!!!" Does that make me a grinch? Maybe it's because my husband and I are currently at odds with each other about something and I'm not having the most amorous feelings towards him right now. :P I feel like vince vaughn in Old School when will ferrell's walking down the aisle (when he shout/coughs "Don't do it!"). LOL. sigh. (BIL getting married tomorrow and another couple we know just got engaged last month). Yup. apathy. I'm sure they'll all be very happy together and until then I'll hug them and clap and give gifts and be cheery..on the outside. sigh. big fat grinch.
Re: Do you ever...
I have thought "RUN!" - - not about marriage in general, but because two individuals don't seem right for each other, or one person seems like a jerk.
I also keep my mouth shut, b/c you never know! I remember thinking some couples were "perfect' (who later divorced) and others would never make it, and are happier than ever.
((hugs)) on being at odds with dh - I hope you work things out!
When that type of feeling is merited it probably is.
Case in point: somebody I know met her now-H the same time I met my now exH. Jim always treated Jane terribly; from the get go he left her on the shelf, ran around with his friends, neglected Jane and in general treated her like a common skivvy.
When she got engaged to this guy, I wanted to tell her to run like hell. And why.
She wasn't going to listen to reason and you know you can't tell them anything.
8 years have gone by; she's still married to this guy; how their marriage is surviving, who knows?We all know a person is what he is and a piece of jewelry doesn't change a person. Am guessing there's plenty of cards she's not showing.
I've felt that way before but, like PPs, it's because the couple wasn't well matched (or in one friend's case they knew each other for literally 180 hours before having a court house wedding) but not when the couple was well-suited.
When I was having my wedding and the requisite bridal shower it seemed like several of my ILs weren't getting along in their relationships. I sat at a table with them and they spent the entire time talking about how marriage sucks azz. All husbands become lazy mooches, etc. I'm still bitter about it--not because I doubt that marriage can suck (and I know my SIL's does--we share a duplex that has no semblance of sound-proofing)--but because of a venue. Feel free to b!tch about marriage during a girls' night out but if you're at a gathering specifically for the bride- or groom-to-be paste a fake smile on your face and put on an act that'll win you an Oscar.I have been to very few weddings that I actually felt really good about the couple getting married. Of course, I'm only 29, so most of the weddings ;Ive been to have been for pretty young folks (and I was not at all convinced that those people were ready to be married, or even take care of themselves in some cases). This is happening less and less as my friends and I get older though.
I guess if you're a Grinch, so am I