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I can't believe that just happened...
I hope no one is offended or hurt by this, but I need to get this out and get some opinions..
Remember how Greg and I went off BCP? Well I was charting and doing a really good job, but then when the school year started I stopped sleeping well through the night and couldn't get accurate temps. I thought I could still be ok if I just went by CM (cervical mucus), but after talking with Greg we decided that if I couldn't do it all the way that I should go back on the pill. I have an appointment two weeks from now for my annual and I was going to start back up again.
Since I haven't been as faithful to family planning as I should have been, we haven't really been having that much sex. I thought we were still being careful- sex only right after my period, and I've been pretty regular so I knew what time of the month to avoid. Cut to last week- remember when Greg got that job? and we went out to celebrate? and I got drunk? and he got drunk? and we boned? well, maybe you don't remember that last part, but it happened.
It wasn't careful. at all. So I've been freaking out for the last week and a half, so I finally cave and buy a pregnancy test today. Without realizing it I bought the digital kind, which I think makes this even worse.
I take one as soon as I get home: Yes+
I take another about an hour later: No-
I don't know what to think. Greg has been amazing throughout this- telling me it's going to be ok, he loves me, we'll make it work, it's just a little earlier than we planned.
and I've been the one flipping out- saying things like the girls on 16 and Pregnant, "It was only that one time!" "We pulled out!" "WTF?!"
I mean, I know we'll be ok. We were going to start trying Christmas of next year- so it's only a year early. Still though... we have debt we were going to pay off in that year. We JUST booked (literally, today) a vacation to the OBX with all our friends in mid August- guess we'll have to cancel that.
I'm taking off work tomorrow and trying to get into any obgyn in the city that will see me so I'll know for sure- but I don't know what to think right now. A yes and a no? what the hell?
And it's not like I hadn't peed in hours before taking the first one- I had just peed around 1 and I took the test at 5- so it's not like I had FMU (first morning urine) or anything. if that makes sense.
This is probably all TMI- and if you made it through all that then I owe you something amazing!
GAH!
Re: I can't believe that just happened...
Your head must be spinning sweetie, I'm sorry.
If I were you, I'd go buy more pg tests until I could get to see my obgyn. Either way, it will be what was meant to be *hugs*
Thanks so much guys- it makes me feel a lot better.
For the record, I'm not late. I'm not even suppose to get my period for another week- so I'm just freaking out. and I'm too freaked out to take any more tests, which I know sounds so stupid- it's not like it will change what's actually going on.
I wish there was a 24 hour emergency obgyn open for stuff like this.
Side note- to calm ourselves down, what are we doing? watching Die Hard 2 with Greg repeating "I love you, we'll be fine!" This is why we work.
Good plan. Just try and keep your mind off it and you'll get a real answer in less than 24 hrs. I don't know why, but I always freak myself out when I'm waiting for my period (I think I'm a little nutters). *hugs*
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OMG, I'm sorry this is worrying you. It sucks not to know either way and to wonder. Can you get another pack of tests and test again? I'm not sure how you did it but when I had more success (the correct answer) when I peed in a little dixie cup then put the stick in it for the 3-5 seconds (or whatever the directions say). That way I know the stick is correctly getting saturated. Also, the first one may have been correct since the urine was more "fresh"/that you hadn't gone in awhile. The second one may have been more watered down or whatever because you had gone an hour before.
It will help to go to your OBGYN, they can take a blood test and check your HCG levels as well as a urine test. Good luck and let us know. Sending you a hug...
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. So, it you are pregnant, it was meant to happen. You will be great parents, whether now or next year!
I think J said it perfectly. I really can see you two being like the coolest parents ever so that's a plus! What's great about it is that you know what an amazing man you married because he doesn't even have to be told to reassure you.
All will work out the way that is meant to. I would prolly test again in the AM. It might at least give you some kind of relief or answer in the morning so you aren't having to question it all day until you get on to the ob.
Whatever happens, you will both be fine. And we will ALL be here!
Thanks guys, seriously! As the night goes on I'm feeling better and better about it. I guess that initial shock was just... a lot. haha
I'll let you all know what happens tomorrow!
Honestly, if I am pregnant you will be the first (besides Greg) to know- we probably won't tell family for a while. Maybe for Christmas. and then I won't tell friends for a few weeks.
same here! i would be just as freaked as you are, but everything will be fun! Your husband is a good egg
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I couldn't agree more.
I have nothing new to add! I would be freaking out, too, because we're waiting and I'm not on HBC, either, so I play this scenario out in my head a lot. But, as everyone else has said, God's timing isn't always our timing, but it is always better. Hugs!
If it was only a week ago that the unprotected celebratory sex occured, I'm willing to bet that first YES was a false positive. Here's why - after fertilzation it still takes a few days for the egg to travel down into your uterus and implant and then begin generating enough HcG to be detected by a HPT.
Which is why testing too early can give people false negatives if they are indeed pregnant but I'm not sure what could have caused a YES and then a NO. Clearly one of those is wrong and one is right but based on the timing of the possible fertilization and the test taking, I'd bet it;s the YES answer that's wrong. Unless you guys have a super serious zygote burrowed into your ute at the moment generating enormous amounts of HcG right away.
A doctor's office blood test will be more sensitive, of course, than a HPT. Remain calm - it's early, your period isn't at the point where it would even be late yet. Get into your doctor as soon they'll see you for a blood test and set your mind at ease.
And if you ARE pregnant, it's not the end of the world! You'll make it work. We were trying and it was STILL a shock and emotional adjustment for us in the beginning. There is no perfect time to have a baby but you don't know that you WILL be having a baby just yet so hang in there until you can know something more concrete.
((hugs))
I will tell you that one drunken night caused me to have my little girl. The youngest of the bunch. Oh my is she the most wonderful girl in the world. If you are you are and you will enjoy every second of being pregnant and having that little one if you aren't then you will go on and wait.
You will be a wonderful mom and hubby with be a great husband and father. You will do wonderful like J said! A baby is a blessing to be enjoyed and if God said it is time then it is. (some may not like that statement but its how I feel)
I often say we make plans and God Laughs at us thinking you silly humans, Sometime he laughs hystercially!!!